Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So in today’s article, I’m going to try and answer a question that is admittedly extremely difficult to answer. What should a gentleman look for when looking for a girlfriend? As mentioned just now, this can be a very difficult question to answer since a lot of what a man will find attractive in a woman is subjective. However, there are certain traits that I believe many of you young gentlemen reading should be looking for when they’re looking to find a nice young lady to date. These will not be physical traits since like I said, what a man may find physically attractive is generally subjective; what I’ll be talking about today are more subtle behaviors, attitudes, and personality traits that any young gentleman should keep an eye out for when looking for a young lady to date. So before this article turns into a full-length novel, let’s get started!
Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! In today’s article, I’ll be talking about a gem in the hills of California that can be another wonderful date spot for you and your special lady. This gem is known as Solvang, California, a small city nestled in the hills of Santa Barbara County. This city is so densely pakced with history and character that it can make the perfect date spot for you and that special lady, or it could even make for a multi-day getaway location if you so desire! On top of its Danish-inspired architecture and layout, Solvang also has a wealth of activites that can fill an entire day or even mulitple days of fun for you and your date! So in today’s article, I’m going to list some fun things to do and places to visit in Solvang to help you get an idea of what you might like to partake in while you’re there with your date! So without any further ado, let’s get started!
Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Today’s article will essentially be a spiritual successor to this one that I wrote a while ago, so if you’d like to check that one out first, feel free to do so! In today’s article, we’ll be looking at how to treat that special lady after the first date. This article will have four (4) tips of how to treat that special girl in your life, whether it’s on a date, or just in general interaction. If you follow these tips, it’s more than possible that you’ll be on your way to her father’s approval as well as a very fruitful relationship. So with out any further delay, let’s get started!
Love Cannot be Forced
Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So for today’s article, I thought I’d take a stab at something that I personally have been struggling with lately. Also, I feel like this is something that’s important for any up-and-coming gentleman to hear, whether they’re just getting into the dating scene or have been involved in it for ten years, or even more. The most important thing to remember about love and dating is this: it cannot be forced, it has to happen naturally. Let me explain what I mean by that.
Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So for today’s article, I thought I would take a stab at talking about a subject that has become more and more prominent on the internet as of late: incels. For the uninitiated, incel is a portmanteau of the words involuntary celibate. It’s an online subculture made up of self-defeating men who are single virgins, but not on their own accord. They feel entitled to sex with women, and when they don’t attain it, they blame all of their problems and tribulations on things like modern feminism and social justice, or the idea that women today have become shallow and cruel, only choosing from a small pool of attractive men while leaving the rest in the dust. This op-ed from the Washington Post goes into more detail about it, and I will also be using its sources, so be sure to read the whole thing.
Now that you are aware of what an incel is, that leaves this question: is this a bad, or possibly dangerous ideology? The short answer is yes, of course it is. Now, while I myself have my own criticisms against the modern feminist and social justice movements, and I don’t deny that such movements are creating problems within the realms of dating and marriage, I’m not about to blame them in their entirety for the problems within the dating pool. And as a result, I still advocate for my readers to be what you would call traditional gentleman; be generally stoic, stand up for yourself, keep yourself generally presentable, and simply treat other people like individual human beings who deserve basic human decency. These things are more than likely to land you a siginifcant other and lead to general happiness in life, even with such rapidly shifting social norms. However, many incels take this the exact opposite way. And just so we’re clear, I don’t mean to direct this at every single man who may have trouble on the flirtation/dating front. I realize that there are simply some men out there who are novices in the way of talking to and dating women, and that’s perfectly fine. I’m simply talking about that small subculture of men who blame those problems on those things I mentioned before, and believe they are entitled to sex or, for all intents and purposes, a girlfriend simply because they want it and think sex will lead to their ultimate happiness. And with social media, online forums, and message boards being as prominent as they are, incels are starting to form self-defeating and self-radicalizing communities that can often be escalated to a dangerous level.
A lot of terrible and misogynistic posts and tweets can, more often than not, be attributed to incels online (just get a load of this subReddit). They’ll often say that women are shallow, or that women don’t actually know what they want. It unfortunately doesn’t stop there however. Many incels take it a step further by having rape fantasies or saying that women brought about their own downfall by advocating for the right to vote! It’s truly a disgustingly backwards mindset, that can be and has been taken to a dangerous. At least a plurality of mass shootings and massacres have also been attributed to some incels, and more often than not, other incels may praise these acts and treat these murderers like heroes. This is the level it has reached. Put simply, most incels have a dangerous and backward mindset, and to anyone reading this who may feel themselves falling down that incel rabbit hole, here’s my advice. I get it, rejection can hurt, and for all I know, maybe it can be the woman’s fault and not yours. However, if you do get rejected and are having trouble with dating and flirtation, use it as a chance to see how you can improve instead of blaming the one who rejected you. Also, and I know that this will be a hard pill to swallow, but there will just be those women who won’t be interested in you. The sooner you’re able to accept that, the better.
I’m sorry if this article got so morbid, there’s simply a lot to unpack when it comes to incels. Just be vigilant, stand up for yourself, and strive to be the best you can be, and you’ll be just fine. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!