Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So in today’s article, I’m going to try and answer a question that is admittedly extremely difficult to answer. What should a gentleman look for when looking for a girlfriend? As mentioned just now, this can be a very difficult question to answer since a lot of what a man will find attractive in a woman is subjective. However, there are certain traits that I believe many of you young gentlemen reading should be looking for when they’re looking to find a nice young lady to date. These will not be physical traits since like I said, what a man may find physically attractive is generally subjective; what I’ll be talking about today are more subtle behaviors, attitudes, and personality traits that any young gentleman should keep an eye out for when looking for a young lady to date. So before this article turns into a full-length novel, let’s get started!
1. She shows interest in your hobbies
To preface this, it should go without saying that if you’re looking to date someone, it’s important to at least have some things in common with that person. That’s just a universal thing that anyone worth their salt would recognize. That said, it should also go without saying that you and your special lady won’t have absolutely everything in common. There may be things that you like that she doesn’t, and vice versa. That’s not to say that any of that is a bad thing, since having absolutely everything in common could make the relationship a little boring. That’s just how human interaction works, and it’s something that you especially need to keep in mind when looking to date someone. It’s important to remember that no matter who you date, there is no guarantee that she will like or enjoy all the same things that you do. While it’s important to recognize that as simple reality, it’s also important to keep an eye out for if she starts to show interest in any of your hobbies or interests, even if it’s something outside of her wheelhouse. It shows that the relationship has opened her up to trying and experiencing new things, and it also shows that by taking interest in your hobbies, she’s also taking more interest in yourself. It’s a sign that the two of you are connecting and bonding on a deeper level. It also shows that your girl is putting a priority on the future of the relationship, so it’s important to keep an eye out for that.
2. She makes an effort to dress up for you
This is something else that I need a preface for. When I say “dress up for you”, I’m not saying that she should be dressing up for a night at the theater or a movie premiere every time you go out together. That would of course be absurdly impractical, not to mention very expensive. Even if your girl can’t afford a nice dress for every night out, something to keep an eye out for is if she still makes an effort to at least dress up a little bit whenever you go out. This can be as simple as wearing a nice blouse or sundress, or sometimes putting on a decent pair of heels or even a little bit of makeup depending on where you’re going for your date. Again, it doesn’t need to be anything crazy extravagant, but if your girl is at least taking a little bit of effort to look decent for you when you go out, that is a good sign to look out for. It shows that she thinks you are worth some amount of effort, and it also shows that she’ll put as much if not more effort in other aspects of the relationship. It’s just one small gesture that can be a sign of much better things.
3. She has a strong relationship with her family
If you’ve read this article that I wrote in the past, then you would know why something like this is so important. In that article, there’s a section where I talk about how important it is to gain the approval of your girlfriend’s father. I’ll try not to just repeat everything I said in that section of the article verbatim, but a lot of what I’ll say here is similar to it. Moving on from that, it’s important to know whether or not your girl has a solid relationship with her family. If she does, it’s a very good sign that she has some amount of grounding in the real world, and it also shows that she has some amount of a support system around her. Her family will hopefully have done their job to instill your girl with decent values and outlooks, and if they have done that, then they would hope to see a reflection of those values in the man their daughter or sister decides to date. On top of that, if she has a good relationship with her family, that can also lead to you having confidants or people to rely on if you don’t have any people like that in your own life. None of this is to say that your girl can’t have a strong relationship with other people in her life who are not part of her family, and it’s also certainly possible that she may have a strained relationship with her family and still have a perfectly decent life. It certainly shouldn’t be an automatic dealbreaker, but it’s still an important thing to be on the lookout for.
So there it is! Those are just three behaviors that a man should look for when they’re aiming to date someone. These are just generally attractive behaviors that I believe would be universally attractive to men everywhere, and I wanted to highlight those here. There are certainly more traits like this I can highlight, so if you like what you’ve read here, please let me know if you’d like to see more in the future. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, and follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on the aforementioned Facebook and Instagram pages. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!
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