Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So for today’s article, I thought I’d take a stab at something that I personally have been struggling with lately. Also, I feel like this is something that’s important for any up-and-coming gentleman to hear, whether they’re just getting into the dating scene or have been involved in it for ten years, or even more. The most important thing to remember about love and dating is this: it cannot be forced, it has to happen naturally. Let me explain what I mean by that.
Of course, whenever you’re looking to date somebody, it’s important to be upfront with them about your intentions and what you’re looking for out of your interaction, I’m not denying that. What I mean when I say that love can’t be forced is that it’s important to realize that wanting to be romantic with someone after just meeting them will, more often than not, just end with nothing but heartbreak, likely on both sides. A relationship needs to develop naturally over time. You won’t just meet someone and then instantly enter into a relationship with them; that’s just not how it works. Of course, that’s not to say that you might instantly click with someone or experience love at first sight, because I am a firm believer that those two things can happen. But even in those cases, it’s important that you spend more time with that certain lady. It simply allows for the two of you to develop a more genuine connection. And with all that in mind, this actually leads very nicely into my next point.
On top of being patient and letting a relationship develop naturally over time, another important thing to keep in mind is that it might not be the best idea to be actively seeking out a relationship. Just like letting the relationship develop naturally over time, it is better most of the time for the way you meet to be very organic as well. It could be something like meeting a girl who you share a class with, meeting a girl through work, or maybe meeting her through a church activity. There’s a variety of ways that this can happen. Just so you don’t misunderstand me, while it is important to not actively seek out a relationship, it’s also just as important to just be open to the possibility of one happening. All it takes is some common sense as well as a decent ability to pick up signals (something that I admittedly need to improve about myself).
So there it is! Hopefully this article was able to help any of you gents reading who may be having some trouble in you love lives. It’s certainly something that has opened my eyes and completely change my perspective on dating in general. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!