Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today’s topic is may be a bit more risqué than most of my other articles, so any of you younger readers may want to skip over this one; I hope you’ll come back for the next article. In any case, I want to get into something that has turned into quite a pervasive part of that average male lexicon: shaming other men for being virgins. However, as you may have guessed by the title, shaming another man for being a virgin is in no way a good thing, and it may even set a dangerous precedent for young men. Allow me to explain why.
Put simply, shaming men for being virgins is in no way a good thing because there’s simply no shame in being a virgin. A man having standards and saving the beauty of sex for the right time or person has nothing to be ashamed of. Contrary to popular belief, most people who are strong advocates for abstinence have that mindset not because they’re afraid of sex, or “prudes” as they may be called. As a matter of fact, many of those people, including myself, hold the beauty of sex to such a high standard that they don’t want to give it away at the first chance just to fulfill some arbitrary standard set up for them. This is in stark contrast to how society, the education system, and popular media talk about sex. The way that sex is taught and portrayed in these contexts, (not all the time, but often enough to the point where I even have to bring it up) it completely removes all standards that sex may have had. As a result, people, especially men, are being taught that they can and should have as much sex as they please, and by extension, it’s taught men that they should stake their entire reputation on whether or not they’ve done the deed. It’s set a dangerous precedent for men to place all of their value on their virginity, when in reality, it shouldn’t matter at all. That is ultimately the root of the problem. “Virgin” shouldn’t be used as an insult because it shouldn’t really matter, therefore, there shouldn’t feel any shame for men being virgins. More often than not, men with this mindset just hold themselves to at least some kind of standard and believe that the best way to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies is to simply wait for the right time and person.
In summary, using “virgin” as an insult is in no way a good thing simply because it doesn’t matter and there’s no reason for a man to be ashamed of being a virgin, despite a multitude of things telling him that he should be. Using “virgin” so derogatorily sets a dangerous precedent for men that shames them into dropping any standards that they may have had for the sake of hedonism and impressing their peers. Sorry if that got so bleak, this is just something that particularly speaks to me. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!