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Incels: A Dangerous Ideology

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So for today’s article, I thought I would take a stab at talking about a subject that has become more and more prominent on the internet as of late: incels. For the uninitiated, incel is a portmanteau of the words involuntary celibate. It’s an online subculture made up of self-defeating men who are single virgins, but not on  their own accord. They feel entitled to sex with women, and when they don’t attain it, they blame all of their problems and tribulations on things like modern feminism and social justice, or the idea that women today have become shallow and cruel, only choosing from a small pool of attractive men while leaving the rest in the dust. This op-ed from the Washington Post goes into more detail about it, and I will also be using its sources, so be sure to read the whole thing.

Now that you are aware of what an incel is, that leaves this question: is this a bad, or possibly dangerous ideology? The short answer is yes, of course it is. Now, while I myself have my own criticisms against the modern feminist and social justice movements, and I don’t deny that such movements are creating problems within the realms of dating and marriage, I’m not about to blame them in their entirety for the problems within the dating pool. And as a result, I still advocate for my readers to be what you would call  traditional gentleman; be generally stoic, stand up for yourself, keep yourself generally presentable, and simply treat other people like individual human beings who deserve  basic human decency. These things are more than likely to land you a siginifcant other and lead to general happiness in life, even with such rapidly shifting social norms. However, many incels take this the exact opposite way. And just so we’re clear, I don’t mean to direct this at every single man who may have trouble on the flirtation/dating front. I realize that there are simply some men out there who are novices in the way of talking to and dating women, and that’s perfectly fine. I’m simply talking about that small subculture of men who blame those problems on those things I mentioned before, and believe they are entitled to sex or, for all intents and purposes, a girlfriend simply because they want it and think sex will lead to their ultimate happiness. And with social media, online forums, and message boards being as prominent as they are, incels are starting to form self-defeating and self-radicalizing communities that can often be escalated to a dangerous level.

A lot of terrible and misogynistic posts and tweets can, more often than not, be attributed to incels online (just get a load of this subReddit). They’ll often say that women are shallow, or that women don’t actually know what they want. It unfortunately doesn’t stop there however. Many incels take it a step further by having rape fantasies or saying that women brought about their own downfall by advocating for the right to vote! It’s truly a disgustingly backwards mindset, that can be and has been taken to a dangerous. At least a plurality of mass shootings and massacres have also been attributed to some incels, and more often than not, other incels may praise these acts and treat these murderers like heroes. This is the level it has reached. Put simply, most incels have a dangerous and backward mindset, and to anyone reading this who may feel themselves falling down that incel rabbit hole, here’s my advice. I get it, rejection can hurt, and for all I know, maybe it can be the woman’s fault and not yours. However, if you do get rejected and are having trouble with dating and flirtation, use it as a chance to see how you can improve instead of blaming the one who rejected you. Also, and I know that this will be a hard pill to swallow, but there will just be those women who won’t be interested in you. The sooner you’re able to accept that, the better.

I’m sorry if this article got so morbid, there’s simply a lot to unpack when it comes to incels. Just be vigilant, stand up for yourself, and strive to be the best you can be, and you’ll be just fine. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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Gentleman's Philosophy

15 Rules for Gentlemen to Teach Their Sons

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! First off, I want to sincerely apologize for being absent for so long. Finishing up school at SF State was absolutely brutal, but now that I’ve graduated, I should have much more time to put up more articles for you all to enjoy! In any case, a few weeks ago, I was listening to a podcast called Deconstructing the Culture with Elisa Steele. I highly recommend checking it out if you’re interested in political and social commentary from a conservative and Biblical perspective. In her thirty-eighth episode, entitled “Real Men”, Mrs. Steele looks over and debunks a ludicrous list of fifteen things to teach young boys, and for the most part, I have to agree with what she has to say. After going through that list, Mrs. Steele encourages her listeners to send her an email with their own list of what to teach young men, so I decided to do just that. I emailed her fifteen rules for gentlemen to teach their sons, and in this article, I’m going to explain each rule one-by-one. Bear in mind that this article is going to be a bit longer than most of my other articles, but I can almost guarantee you that these will go a long way. So before this article turns into a full-length novel, let’s get started!

1. Step up and be a leader when no one else will

This one really should go without saying. Men by nature should be more eager to take on leadership roles, and there may be those times where someone needs to take charge. Not only does taking on leadership positions allow men to grow in their confidence, but it also allows men to learn more about themselves, which will further prepare them to take on more leadership positions or even be fathers later on down the road.

2. There’s a difference between being a leader and being a dictator

As an extension to rule number 1, this is a very small, yet extremely important distinction to make. While both leaders and dictators will likely be giving orders, a true leader will be out with there those he is commanding, assisting them or even protecting them so they can complete the task at hand. While a dictator will also give orders, he will simply watch over those he is commanding and most of the time, not even be out there to assist them.

3. Be assertive, but don’t be the bad guy

This is yet another extension to the first two rules. A true leader will enforce the rules and commands he gives; if not, he wouldn’t even be doing his job properly. But there is a way to enforce said rules without coming across as the bad guy. The best leader will enforce the rules while making it clear that he is not at all above them. If a leader thinks himself to be above the rules, that’s essentially the first step to a dictatorship.

4. It’s not always shameful to back down from a fight

A lot of times, men are encouraged to engage in fights, whether verbal or physical, as a way to prove their manliness, so to speak. However, there are, more often than not, certain times where engaging in a fight simply isn’t worth it. Whether it’s because there’s no changing the mind of the opposition or simply because there’s no chance of winning, some fights are just not worth getting into, and thus there’s no shame in backing down from them. Of course, figuring out which fights may or may not be worth getting into is all up to every man’s instincts; I can’t be the arbiter of which fights are worth getting into.

5. Never be afraid to ask questions

Most men by default like to feel like they’re in charge and that they don’t need help. Of course, there will simply be those times where a man can’t figure something out, and will need to ask a question or ask for help. This is often an area of shame for many men, myself included, but it really shouldn’t be. Asking questions and asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it should be treated as a sign of humility and being willing to learn.

6. Always ask how you can help

Whenever working on a group project in any capacity, there will almost always be a way to help. However, a man should rarely, if ever, wait for a task to be handed or appointed to him. A man should always be on hand to help, and as such, should always ask how he can help with the task at hand.

7. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in, even in the face of being mocked or dismissed

In today’s political and social climate, this seems more relevant than ever. No matter where he stands on the political spectrum, a man will have opponents. And when a man has opinions, he should be prepared to have them challenged at any point. Thus, he should stand up for what he believes in, and not back down if backed into a corner. This doesn’t mean he should be a “yes man” at any point, but we’ll get to that later.

8. More importantly, stand up for those who are important to you

Though there may be some who try to deny it, every man has at least one person who is important to him. It can be a family member, a friend, a significant other, or even just someone in his community that he confides in. If such people are important to a man, that man should stand up for them as well as himself in the case of violence, ridicule, and exploitation. Men by nature are protectors, and not being able to stand up for those who are important to them are simply betraying themselves along with those people.

9. Being a champion bodybuilder doesn’t make you a great man

Don’t misunderstand me. Being physically fit is essential to any man’s health, and being able to lift heavy loads can certainly be an important part of his arsenal. However, a man being able to bench press twice his body weight just to say that he can is in no way correlated to his character. Moreover, it doesn’t really serve any purpose unless he plans to use his strength as a way to help people. As much a man should value his health and physical fitness, a man should be equally focused on good character as well as physical prowess.

10. There’s never a right time to get married

This one applies later in life to those who are getting ready to tie the knot. There is, of course, no shame in a man waiting for the right person or waiting until being more financially stable, but the fact of the matter is that there will always be risks going in. The best a man can do is make the best-informed decision at the time. But even as well-informed as that decision may be, the risk will always be there, and there will never be that “perfect time” to get married.

11. Blind faith and loyalty will get you nowhere

This is essentially a follow-up to rule number 7. While it is of course important to have things you believe in and people to look up to, it should never spiral down to the point of blind faith and loyalty. A man should always hold his beliefs and those he looks up to to some amount of scrutiny. As much as a man can look up to a certain political figure, it’s important to remember that said figure is still human. They make mistakes, especially in things that they say, and they should be called on it. And as far as beliefs go, especially religious, it’s perfectly reasonable for a man to have doubts and questions about them. It’s another sign of humility and willingness to learn. Without that scrutiny and ability to question his own beliefs as well as the beliefs of those he looks up to, a man will simply turn into the stereotype of the “yes man” who can’t think for himself or formulate his own opinions.

12. There’s no shame in loss or failure

There’s simply no way around this. Losing and failing are simply inevitable in life. And while things like losing that soccer game, not getting that certain job, or getting passed up for that promotion can certainly hurt, there’s no shame in that as long as an honest effort was put in. In fact, loss and failure is, more often than not, necessary. It can certainly hurt to lose, but a man should use the pain of his loss as the first step of improvement. If a man loses a soccer game, that should be a sign to put more work into his practices and drills. If a man gets passed up for a job promotion or an audition, he should use that lost opportunity as a stepping stone to improve his work ethic and figure out what he might doing wrong or in which areas he can still improve. In the words of hall of fame soccer player Cobi Jones, “The road to victory… is paved with losses.”

13. Your virginity and your loss of it should never define you

It seems like a stereotype at this point that high school boys are practically in competition to see who can either get laid first, or get laid the most, and of course, the guy who hasn’t been able to do the horizontal mambo, either because he doesn’t want to, or just has trouble with the opposite sex, is mocked and ridiculed by his peers. This sets a dangerous precedent for young men. It teaches them that being a virgin is something that he should be ashamed of. However, being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, and certainly not what a man should stake his reputation on. It shows that he has enough respect for himself and his body to save such a difficult and monumental decision for the best time, most likely when he’s in a committed relationship or (preferably) married.

14. Do what’s right, not what feels good, as hard of a decision as it may be

It’s no secret that when given the choice, people will often go with what makes them feel good, even if it might not be the overall best choice in the long run. It might feel good to have that leftover piece of cake instead of an apple for breakfast, but it will most likely not be the best for a man’s health in the long run. A man may find it more satisfying to leave work just a minute or two early and put off whatever he was working on until the next day, even though he can easily finish it that day and just spare a few minutes into overtime to finish it. With that kind of attitude, it can lead him to do mediocre work or just the bare minimum for his job requirement, instead of putting that extra initiative in that could possibly get him that promotion. Of course, there may be those times where the right decision and the decision that feels good may overlap, but those situations are very few and far between.  Most of the time, a man may have to sacrifice what feels good for doing something right.

15. The two words that will take you farther in life than anything else: “Thank you.”

As I’ve said in the past, I believe that gratitude is the greatest quality for a man to have, and I still wholeheartedly stand by that. A man who is grateful for the things he’s been given or has earned, as few as they may be, will be a far happier and more productive person. A man who is grateful to his employer will do everything he can to keep his job. A man who is grateful to his family and friends will undoubtedly create a deeper loving connection with them. A grateful man will be satisfied in what he has earned or has been given, and work even harder to achieve more of it, as opposed to an ungrateful man who believes he’s entitled to certain things for no extra work  or effort because he’s unsatisfied with what he has. Essentially, a man should follow this mantra: gratitude leads to satisfaction, satisfaction leads to happiness. Ingratitude leads to entitlement, entitlement leads to bitterness. “Thank you.” Those two small words will take a man farther in life than he could ever realize.

So there it is! Fifteen rules that very gentleman should teach their sons. Apologies for this article being so long, there’s simply a lot of things that every young gentleman should know. Be sure to comment below any other rules you think might be important, or leave any ideas for any future articles In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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Manly Skills

The Gentleman’s Guide to Card Games

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So when I was growing up, my family loved playing card games, and they still enjoy playing cards to this day. As a result, I learned how to play a handful (no pun intended) of different card games that I thought would be good for any young gentleman to know. So today, I’m  going to go over some of my personal favorite card games and their basic rules so you can play them yourself at a family game night, a night in with the guys, or anything else. So without any further delay, let’s get started!

1. Rummy

This one is a particular favorite among my family. The object of Rummy is to essentially empty your hand before the other players do by placing down 3’s of a Kind or straights involving at least three sequential cards of the same suit on the table. If only two players are playing, each player starts with ten cards. If three or four are playing, every player starts with seven cards, and with five or six players, everyone starts with six cards. After the cards are dealt, the rest of the deck is set face-down on the center of the table and the top card is flipped face-up to start the discard pile, beginning the game. Players starting to the left of the dealer can choose to take the top card off of the deck, take a card out of the discard pile, or put down any melds (3’s of a Kind) or straights they already have. Every player must put a card into the discard pile in order to end his turn. As the game continues, players that have already put down their own melds or straights can then place down cards that continue another player’s set. For example, if one player notices that his opponent has as three 7’s on the table, he can choose to set down the fourth seven if he so chooses. The round ends when the first player “goes out” by setting down his last card without putting a card into the discard pile. Once the round is over, the scores are added up and the game continues for as long as the players please. Now, the rules for different aspects of the game like point values, taking multiple cards from the discard pile, and other things can vary, so it’s important to discuss such things with the dealer before starting the game.

2. BS

This was a particular favorite of mine when I was younger. This is a fun and simple one that can be a good choice for those who don’t have much experience with card games. The object of the game, like Rummy, is to get rid of all of your cards before your opponents. The game begins with the dealer dealing out the cards one at a time until there are no cards left in the deck. Whoever has the Ace of Spades begins the game. How it works is that the player with the Ace of Spades sets it down at the center of the table along with any other Aces he has, and state what he is setting down (so if the player has two aces, he would say “two aces” when he sets his cards down). The game continues with the cards increasing in numerical value with Aces representing 1. The catch is, that if a player doesn’t have the specific card he is supposed set down, he will still have to set down cards, but have to lie about what he is setting down (for example, he would set down a card and say “one five”, but the actual card is anything other than a five). On top of that, any player can call “BS” on another player if they think the last card that was set down is false. If the player who called “BS” is right and the card is indeed false, then the player who set down the last card then picks up all the cards currently in the center of the table. However, if the player who called “BS” is wrong, and the card is actually what the player claims it is, then the player who called it takes all the cards. The game continues around the table until one player runs out of cards.

3. Blackjack

This one is a relatively simple one that can be a decent introduction to the thrills of gambling (in all seriousness, please gamble responsibly. Know your limits and don’t bet any more money than you’re willing to lose). The object of Blackjack is fairly straightforward. Have your hand equal twenty-one or lower while also having a greater value than the dealer’s hand. If your hand is greater than twenty-one, you “bust”, meaning you forfeit your entire bet, a rule which also applies to the dealer. To begin the game, the dealer places two cards in front of him, one face up, the other face down, and then gives two cards to the other players. Once the round begins, players in turn can choose to either hit or stand (there are other options in higher-stakes games, but those won’t be addressed here). To hit means to request another card from the dealer. Players can hit as many times as they like, but if at any time their hand goes over twenty-one, they bust. If a player chooses to stand, he is satisfied with his hand, and will have no more cards given to him. Once all the players have chosen to stand or have busted, the dealer’s face-down card is revealed, and he can then give himself as many cards as he wants to add to his value. However, just like with the other players, if his hand goes over twenty-one at any point, he busts, and every player at the table wins. Any player who has a higher value than the dealer without going over twenty-one wins, earning back twice as much as he bet at the beginning of the round, and a new round begins. Any player that ties with the dealer will win back the exact amount that he bet. The values of each card break down as follows: Kings, Queens, and Jacks (face cards) are worth ten, Aces can be worth either one or eleven, depending on which will be more advantageous for the player, and numbered cards are worth their number value.

4. Poker

Of course, Poker is the quintessential card game that is recognizable all over the world. Now, there are multiple ways to play poker, but the ultimate goal across most of those different variations is to get the highest five-card hand. In this entry, I won’t list out the specific rules and procedures of a specific variation of Poker. Instead, I’m going to list some of the most popular and universal terms in Poker as well as the hand hierarchy  to understand what you’ll be doing and what to be aiming for when you sit down to start placing bets.

Popular/Universal Terms

  • Call – match the previous bet.
  • Raise – to bet a greater amount than the previous bet; some may call this “upping the ante”.
  • Check – hold off on betting or folding to see what the other players will do. The betting round then ends on the last player who checked.
  • All-in – Putting any chips you have left into the pot.
  • Fold – to forfeit your hand, keeping you from placing any further bets.
  • Pot – total amount of money that has been put on the table.

Hand Hierarchy

Here are the different hands in Poker, listed from best to worst

  • Royal Flush – Ace, King, Queen, Jack, and ten all of the same suit
  • Straight Flush – Any five cards of the same suit in numerical order
  • Four of a Kind – Four cards with the same number
  • Full House – Three cards with the same number and two other cards with  the same number
  • Flush – Any five cards of the same suit
  • Straight – Any five cards in numerical order, regardless of suit
  • Three of a Kind – Three cards with the same number
  • Two Pair – Two cards with with the same number and another two cards with the same number
  • Pair – Two cards with the same number

In the event of a tie, the higher numerical value takes precedence. For example, a pair of two tens will beat two threes. Another example is if two players each have a two-pair hand. One has a pair of threes and of eights, the other has a pair of threes and of queens. In this scenario, the second player would win since queens have a higher value than eights.

So there we have it! These are just a few card games you can start incorporating into your game nights or hangouts! Card games can be wonderful way to socialize since they, more often than not, require the participants to interact with each other in way that’s a bit more serious and personal than a lot of other games. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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4 Role Models for Young Gentlemen

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today, I’m going to get a bit more broad and general than most of my other articles, because today I’m going to talk about four (4) gentlemen who I believe are the best role models for any young gentlemen to look up to. These can be celebrities, historical figures, other online creators like myself, or anything in between. I thought this would be a fun list to make because these are, more or less, the gentlemen who have inspired me the most, and I thought they would help inspire you young gents reading this. So without any further ado, let’s get started!

1. Brett McKay

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This man is actually the reason I’m even writing this blog at all! Brett McKay is the founder and editor-in-chief of the Art of Manliness, the largest independent men’s lifestyle magazine on the web. He was the first to truly introduce me to the men’s lifestyle that I write about today thanks to the book my godmother got me when I was in high school that was actually a giant compilation of a bunch of his articles. In any case, this guy has a lot of stuff to say about being a gentleman, from fashion to etiquette and beyond. He has the answer to pretty much any question that a young gentleman may have, so please be sure to check him out!

2. Theodore Roosevelt

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Our nation’s 26th president of course had to be on the list! I actually wrote an article that goes into much more depth about Teddy over on the Classy Libertarian, so be sure to check it out right here if you’re interested. But in short, if you had to tell me who the personification of the word “masculine” would be, I would probably say Teddy Roosevelt. Not only was he a very friendly and charismatic leader and politician, but he was also a hunter, an outdoorsman, an explorer, a mountain climber, a boxer, and a naturalist. It’s mostly thanks to him that we have the National Parks that we all know and love today. He’s a part of Mt. Rushmore for a very good reason.

3. Chris Pratt

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As weird as it might be to see a Hollywood celebrity on this list, Chris Pratt is somewhat of an oddball in Hollywood. He is definitely more right-leaning than a lot of other Hollywood actors are, and while I’m not here to tell you which way to lean politically, it’s certainly refreshing to see in a world as largely left-leaning as Hollywood. He is also openly religious, making it a point to say that God is real during his acceptance speech at the MTV music awards. Even after the recent controversy surrounding his faith arose a couple weeks ago, Pratt still stood his ground and continued to stand up for what he believes in. On top of this, those who follow him on social media know that he is a real family man. Even after he and his wife Anna Faris split up, he still does whatever is necessary to provide for himself, his son, and his now fiance, Katherine Schwarzenegger. Such things involve hunting and farming (yes, this guy is a farmer). In short, Chris Pratt is a very reverent family man who stands up for himself and his beliefs, is an avid hunter, and a working farmer to help provide for his family. If that isn’t an admirable role model for young gentlemen today, I don’t know what is.

4. Glenn Miller

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This is another guy whom I’ve written an article about before, which you can check out right here if you want some more details. In short, this bandleader was, another personification of what a true gentleman should be. Coming from rather humble beginnings, he had a vision of creating his own musical sound, and stopped at nothing in order to find it. After becoming a hit, he didn’t simply use his music as a means of making money, though he did certainly make money from his music. More importantly, he used his music as a way to help people, particularly the Allies fighting as World War II. After being drafted into the war effort, Miller started using his music as a way to build morale for the allies on the battlefield. He used it as a way to keep their spirits up when morale was at an all-time low, something that would be extremely important back when the average soldier was the American everyman. That’s what made Miller such an admirable gentleman. He used his art as a way to help the little guy and remind him of home, he didn’t just do it as a way to achieve money or fame.

So there it is! Four (4) gentlemen who I believe are the best role models for young gentlemen to look up to. I’m more than positive that there are much more gents like this out there, so if you’d like to see some more lists like this, please let me know, this was a fun list to make! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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The Gentleman’s Guide to Online Etiquette

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! It’s honestly surprising that I haven’t written an article about this sooner, but nonetheless, here we are. In today’s ever-growing world of online communication and with how divided people online have become, online civility seems to be a thing of the past at this point. But in any case, I thought this would be a good topic for young men to know, especially in today’s online climate. So today, I’m going to go over four (4) ways to be more civil online, but before I do that, I thought it would be a good idea to explain why a man should be more civil online.

Disclaimer: Most of what I say in this article is inspired by this one from the Art of Manliness, but I am in no way sponsored or endorsed by them. I also want to acknowledge that just in case I get accused of plagiarism.

Now it should come as no surprise that what draws people most to online communication and social media is the sense of anonymity. A lot of times, people can be more anonymous online, making it much easier to say whatever they want without much consequence. And while I’ll elaborate on why that’s not such a good thing a little later, it still doesn’t detract from this fact: a gentleman should always treat other people with the dignity and respect they deserve, regardless of the medium they are communicating through. Whether online or in person, it’s still another person that the gentleman is talking to, they still have feelings. So with that out of the way, let’s move onto the meat of the article.

1. Remember that there are real people on the other side

This is something that a lot of people forget. While the internet can be and is more anonymous, it’s important that there are still actual people on the other side of the screen. Even if people online don’t always see the person they’re engaging with, they’re still people. They have feelings, and a lot of times, words can hurt to them. Granted, words really only have as much power as the individual gives them, but that doesn’t change the fact that words can hurt, whether stated online or in person.

2. Use your real name

In the words of the AoM article, “…if you’re not proud enough of something to have it associated with your real name, then why are you writing it?” There is a lot of truth to this. I also think of another quotation from Ron Swanson in Parks and Recreation, “If you believe something, you sign your name to it.” Now there can be some exceptions and caveats to this, but as a general rule of thumb, people should ask themselves why they’re writing in an alias. Is it for legitimately protecting their privacy, or simply because they don’t what they say to be associated with them?

3. Would you say it to their face?

This is a big follow-up to number 1. Since people often forget that there’s an actual person on the other side of their screen, they tend to disregard this idea and just say what they want to with no regard to what the person on the other side is feeling or thinking. People seriously need to ask themselves this question before posting a comment on someone’s post. If they wouldn’t say it to someone’s face, why even write it online?

4. Don’t say anything at all

At times, this can simply be the best option. Whether it’s because there’s nothing respectful or constructive to be said or there’s no use getting in an argument since neither side is going to change their mind, sometimes just letting go of the phone or the keyboard is the best option for everybody. I myself will admit that I haven’t always taken this advice and have ended up saying things I never actually meant or simply regretted saying. It’s a tricky tightrope to walk, but sometimes not saying anything can be much more constructive than getting into a debate for no good reason.

So there it is! These are just a few more ways a gentleman can be civil online. If you’d like to know more, the Art of Manliness article I have linked above goes into a bit more detail, so I highly encourage anyone reading to go check it out. I hope these tips can help any readers to be a bit more open-minded and level-headed online, since the lines have become so incredibly divided as of late. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!