Why the Stigma Around Online Dating?

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Once again, I want to sincerely apologize for the lack of articles up here lately, I’ve been swamped other projects for school and the like, and haven’t been able to do much of anything on here. But I’m at a point now where I think I can get back to a schedule of posting just once a week instead of twice. Maybe if I’m able to find another admin, we’ll be able to get back to our twice-a-week posting schedule. With all of that out of the way, let’s get to the rest of the article!

Now, it should come as no surprise that online dating and things like dating apps have started to become more and more prevalent as in today’s society, and with such growing prevalence comes its fair share of critics and naysayers. Even I myself tend to advocate for actually talking to a woman in person and getting a genuine human connection with a woman I’d like to date, since just swiping right on someone I think is attractive and asking if they want to hook up doesn’t seem to accomplish that all. Not to mention there are countless articles and op-eds outright discouraging people from pursuing online dating. But here’s the ugly truth: with the massive expansion of the internet and social media, meeting people online has just become part of everyday life. As a part of the internet’s expansion, that means things like dating sites have become much more sophisticated and there are more options for dating sites now than ever.

When people think of dating dating sites, most people think of sites like eHarmony,, or ChristianMingle, but the fact of the matter is that there are countless dating sites for many different people with different interests. There are Christian dating sites for those religious folks, “geeky” dating sites for a myriad of different fandoms like Disney, Star Trek, Harry Potter and Dr. Who, and even dating sites for musicians. While I myself was hesitant about online dating, I eventually bit the bullet and decided to make a profile on CatholicMatch, which is exactly what it sounds like, a dating site for single Catholics. And eventually, I met a wonderful woman who I am now in a very happy and fruitful relationship with. The reason sites like these work is because they focus on commonalities between people, which makes it even easier for them connect. If you ask me, it’s not unlike meeting someone at church or a fan event. The circumstances of what people have in common simply led to them finding each other out of a crowd. Dating sites allow you to do essentially the same thing, just in a more digital setting. So if any of you gents feel the call to go online to find the woman of your dreams, then by all means, go ahead! Maybe it’ll work, maybe it won’t, but you never know until you try. Good luck gents, and happy searching! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!



Disneyland Through the Years: The Perfect Date Spot!

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! If you know me personally, then you probably know that I love anything Disney, and by extension, Disneyland Park in Anaheim, California. I’ve been to Disneyland so much that I practically have the entire layout of the park implanted in my brain. So today, I thought it would be fun to show some pictures of Disneyland over the years, and also explain why it makes for the perfect date location!

Disclaimer: Disneyland can be difficult to drive to if you don’t live in California, southern California in particular. Plus, tickets to Disneyland can be ridiculously expensive, so just keep all of that in mind before making a decision about making the trip out there.

Aerial view of the park in 1969

Since its opening on July 17, 1955, Disneyland has practically become an icon of American culture, especially its youth. It was the perfect culmination of Walt Disney’s visions and dreams, with him hoping that it would “be a source of joy and inspiration to all the world.” And sixty-three years later, I would say his hopes have been realized! The true joy of Disneyland lies in being young at heart. It’s a place where people can reminisce about their childhoods with their favorite Disney characters, or simply just unwind and feel like a child again. While I’m obviously not saying that we should all be man-children, I think it’s still important to let nostalgia take over for a little bit and to let out your inner child run free. It’s a perfect way to unwind and make you a little happier. And that’s what makes it such a great date location.

Workers constructing the Matterhorn Bobsleds

It should come as no surprise a couple wants to be happy at the end of the day, so why not spend some time at the place that’s been called the “Happiest Place on Earth”? There are so many things you and your lady can do while at the Magic Kingdom! You can get a bite to eat and a show at the Golden Horseshoe Saloon, you can see performances of Fantasmic! or World of Color, you can take trip across the Rivers of America on the Mark Twain riverboat, and of course, you can go on the myriad of rides. You can adventure all around the jungle on the Jungle Cruise or Indiana Jones, you can warp through the stars on Star Tours and Space Mountain, or you can take a tour through a Haunted Mansion. And if you’d like a ride that has a bit more of a romantic flair, I would personally suggest the Storybook Land canal.  It’s got such a pleasant and romantic atmosphere, especially at night.

The first iteration of Space Mountain in 1977

Ultimately what I’m getting at is that Disneyland is the perfect place to unwind and spend time with your special lady. There are so many things you can do, interactive or otherwise, and it allows you both to just let your inner child run free for a little bit. Disneyland was conceived as a place where anyone, young or old, can reminisce about their childhoods, raise hopes about their future, and in general be happy. Of course, nothing is better for a couple than being happy together, and if you’re looking for something to do that you’ll both enjoy, a trip to Disneyland may be the perfect choice! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll leave you with some more photos of Disneyland over the years. I’ll see you next time!

Mermaids were once a staple of the submarine lagoon
A Disneyland parade in the 1970s
C-3PO, Mickey Mouse, and R2-D2 at the premiere of Star Tours in 1987
Aladdin’s Genie leading a parade in 1993
The climax of the Fantasmic! show in Disneyland
California Adventure’s World of Color show

Can Long-Distance Relationships Work?

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So, this has become a very popular question in today’s youth and dating world, especially since we’re in the golden age of social media: can a long distance relationship  work? This is a question that even I’ve had to ask myself from time to time, and I’m hoping to answer that question for any of you young gents who may be in this situation.

Now, unsurprisingly, the question of whether or not a long-distance relationship can work is an incredibly difficult question to answer. The reason being because romantic relationships by their nature are very different depending on the people involved. Some people are perfectly fine with long-distance relationships. They think relationships like that are much more romantic, plus it’ll make it all the better when they finally see their significant other in person. A very “absence makes the heart grow fonder” mentality. On the other hand, you have those people who can’t stand a long-distance relationship. They find it incredibly stressful since they have to work twice as hard in order to make the relationship work. They also just can’t stand not being able to actually see the person all the time. Now, while I completely understand both perspectives and  think they both have some valid points, I myself tend to follow the former ideology. I believe that under the right circumstances and between the right people, a long-distance can certainly work. That is, however just my mindset.

Sad as it may be to say, the question about long-distance relationships being able to work may not even have a definite answer. Sorry to any of you coming to this article expecting an answer set in stone, but finding an answer like that to a question like this really isn’t possible. As I said before, romantic relationships by their nature vary greatly depending on the people involved in that relationship. People express love and affection in different ways, and on top of that, people just have their preferences. You and your girlfriend will most likely have very different relationship compared to your best friend and his girlfriend; maybe a long-distance situation works with you and your girlfriend, but not with your best friend and his girl. So while I can’t give a definite answer as to whether or not a long-distance relationship can work, I can at least offer this advice: talk to your significant other about it and just use common sense. After all, the most important part of any relationship is communication. If you and that special someone can come to a reasonable conclusion about your long-distance relationship, whether you end up staying together or not, all the more power to you two.

Sorry if this article seems too vague or not very focused, gents. Like I said, this is an extremely difficult question to answer, and my answer to the question may be different from yours. At the end of the day, the most important things to keep in mind when coming up with your own answer are communication and common sense, those will both go a long way. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!


4 More Summer Date Ideas!

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here and happy summer! It’s around this time that my local school district lets their students out for their summer vacation, and in light of the season being upon us, I thought it would be fun to talk about more fun dates that you and your lady can partake in during the summer season! And if you’re wondering why I said more, I actually have another article about fun summer date ideas which you can check out right here! But in any case, here are four more things you can enjoy with the lucky lady while you’re off for summer!

1. Dancing/A dance class

Dancers at a Jazz Club

In my hometown, there are multiple swing dance clubs that I’ve gotten to play music for, and seeing them dance makes it look like so much fun! Even just learning how to dance can be a great way to connect with your partner, plus it’ll be great exercise for the both of you. If you look online to try and find some local swing dance clubs or classes in your area, I’m sure you’ll be able to find something near you!

2. The beach

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Disclaimer: The woman in this picture is not topless, the top strap of her bikini is just really hard to see because of the lighting

I’m surprised I didn’t mention this in my last article about this. Though to be fair, this one would be hard to do if you don’t live on the coast. Even so, spending an afternoon at the beach can be an incredibly fun time for you and your partner. Lying out together in the sun, splashing around in the shallow water, or even just walking on the sand can be a simple and fun way for you two bond. Bring some finger food and and a few drinks and you can turn it into a picnic!

3. Wine tasting

Couple sampling wine whilst visiting vineyard

This one really only applies to those of you over 21 (if you’re reading this in the United States, that is), but it’s still a wonderfully romantic setting for the both of you. Sharing a few drinks, responsibly, and possibly making a road trip out of it with a wine tour can make it even better! Wine in and of itself can be very romantic, and who knows? Maybe you two can find your regular wine to have with dinner, or maybe even your wedding reception later on down the line.

4. Independence Day parade/fireworks


Apologies to any of you across the pond who are reading this, since this really only applies to anyone living in the United States. Of course, anyone who lives in the States knows how excited people get to celebrate their independence on the Fourth of July, and the pinnacle of all that excitements come in the form of either a parade, a fireworks display, or both. Taking your girl to see either of those displays can be great fun for both of you. Plus in my hometown, there’s a trope among the teens and young adults that they need a “fireworks kiss”, so it’d be nice to have that too.

So there you go! If you and your special are getting tired of the same old thing, maybe try some of these things out, or check out my last list if you need more ideas! If there’s anything I missed or if you have any more ideas, then leave a comment and let me know! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!


Can a Man and a Woman be Friends?

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Now we’ve all heard of it and I’m willing to bet more than a handful of you gents reading have been there before, I’m talking about the dreaded “friend zone.” For those of you who don’t know what that is, I think Ryan Reynolds in Just Friends puts it best: “When a girl decides that you’re her friend, you’re no longer a dating option. You become this complete non-sexual entity in her eyes, like her brother, or a lamp.” Essentially, the “friend zone” is a situation where one side wants to be involved romantically, while the other wants to just stay friends, usually with the guy wanting to take things further. While it is more common for this to happen to men, I’m sure it happens among women too, it just isn’t as frequent and/or talked about. In any case, this leads to an interesting question among those who are in that dreaded situation, can a man and a woman just be friends? So that’s what we’re setting out to answer today.

If the message of the movie When Harry Met Sally is to be believed, then no, it’s pretty much impossible for a man and a woman to be just friends. However, I feel like this movie takes a very simplistic look at the relationship between a man and a woman (which is in no way meant to talk ill about the movie, I love it a lot, and highly recommend you check it out). They make seem as if a man and woman will automatically think about each other romantically if they start to connect on a personal level. While this may be true for that certain person you happen to find attractive, you can still connect with that man or woman without thinking about them romantically or sexually. The most important thing here is communication. It obviously shouldn’t be right after meeting each other, but you should both let each other know early on what your intentions are before getting too involved. If you aren’t effective in stating what you want out of the relationship, this can obviously create a huge problem. In order to best explain this, I’ll have to tell you my “friend zone” story.

So when I was seventh grade, I was not very well-liked by about half the girls in the student body. But there was one girl, we’ll call her M, who one of the few girls who actually stood up for me, and she and I quickly formed a friendship. And I’m not joking when I say I actually fell in love her practically at first sight, but at the time, I didn’t know what that actually felt like. Anyways, we continue to bond in friendship into high school, and I even end up taking her to her first high school dance! She also invited me to her 16th birthday party, where there was in fact dancing, and M’s parents actually wanted me to share the first dance with her. It was during that first dance that I finally realized how I felt about her, but I didn’t have the nerve to tell her. So for the next few years, I was just stuck. I constantly was wanting more out of our relationship, but she just wanted to stay friends, and it was horrible. After years of keeping those emotions bottled up, I finally wrote a letter to her that spilled the beans. After finally telling her how I felt, that’s when the reality of the situation hit me. I finally came to the realization that she just didn’t see me in that way, and after talking to her a little bit more about that, I eventually came to accept it. Now M and I are now just friends and still talking every now and then.

So if there’s anything you can take from that, it should be that you should be clear about your intentions when you enter into a friendship with a woman, especially if you want to take things further. Also, something else I haven’t mentioned is that you can connect with a woman without being attracted to them sexually. Maybe you and this woman have things in common, but there may just be that thing that keeps you from being attracted to them in that way. That said, I am in no way the arbiter of what people are attracted to, that’s entirely up to you. Just listen to your gut and make smart decision. Also, in the vain of all of this, I think it’d be smart to answer a similar question, can you be friends with an ex? The short answer is yes you can! As long as your breakup wasn’t toxic and didn’t leave any negative air between the two of you, then by all means, continue to connect and be friends. I was in a relationship with someone for almost a year in high school, but after a while, we just started to drift apart and we decided to end it, but our breakup wasn’t anything toxic and was perfectly amicable. And to this day, we’re still good friends, and she’s in fact now married with a kid on the way!

So what exactly am I saying here? In a nutshell, yes, a man and a woman can just be friends, as long as both the people involved in the friendship are clear with each other about each other’s intentions. There may just be those people who may not be sexually attracted to you, and that’s perfectly fine. Developing connections and friendships is what helps humans survive, and it’s perfectly possible to develop those connections with the opposite sex without being attracted to them sexually. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share it, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!