Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Today, I’m setting out to answer what is possibly the most difficult question when it comes to dating and relationships: do looks matter when looking for a romantic partner or spouse? This is a question that has been floating around and hotly debated seemingly since the beginning of time. There are some who say that looks shouldn’t matter at all, and there are others who say it’s the most important thing when looking for a partner. So today, I’m going to put my hat into the ring and give my take on this issue and give the best advice I can to my readers.
To start, it’s important to understand that humans by nature are largely visual creatures. We take a lot of cues from what we see around us and draw a lot of conclusions about people and the environment from what we can see with our own eyes. That’s why we see so many attractive people in advertisements and put attractive celebrities on some sort of pedestal. Unfortunately, this has led to a bit of a bias where more attractive people are perceived as generally “better people”, even if that may not always be the case. This leads quite nicely into the meat of the rest of this article.
Since humans are naturally visual creatures, what a person looks like can certainly contribute to how someone feels about them. Simply how woman looks could be the deciding factor for if a man asks her out, or vice versa. However, the surface level looks of a person are just that: surface level looks. While looks may matter someone right out the gate (which is likely why so many dating sites and dating apps are so prolific), it should come as no surprise that levels of human connection run a lot deeper than that. That may sound like typical, bumper sticker wisdom, but it’s true. While looks can certainly make someone attractive, there may also be personality traits and character quirks that contribute to how attractive a person is. On top of that, possibly the most important thing to remember is that it’s all subjective. What one person finds attractive may not be attractive to someone else. So to summarize, while looks may matter in the short term, the levels of human connection and relationship building go a lot deeper than that. That’s not to say that it’s bad or shameful to put an emphasis on looks when looking for a date or a spouse. It’s just important to remember that looks aren’t everything.
So there we have it! Apologies if the conclusion I came to wasn’t as cut and dry as you were hoping, this is simply a very difficult subject to tackle. So in the end, even if someone’s looks are important to you, don’t let it be the dealbreaker. You could lose out on a potential girlfriend or even a spouse. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!