Gentleman's Philosophy

The Joy of the Holidays

Merry Christmas gents! It’s Max from The Young  Gentleman’s Guide here. So, I just watched a video this morning by a YouTube channel known as The Warp Zone, which I’ll include a link to here. 

It’s pretty funny, and it actually shines a bit of light on where many of the traditions of Christmas come from. I’m sure it’s a bit more complicated than what the video will have you believe, but it seems that they get their point across. But today, I’m going to talk about all the holidays that are celebrated around this time; Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Boxing Day, and  the like. While the aforementioned video makes it seem that the Christians essentially stole many Pagan winter traditions as a ploy to subjugate the Roman people into the Christian faith, I’m willing to bet that that was only part of the Christians’ plan (I could be completely wrong about that, but I’m an optimist, cut me some slack). Now, it’s worth mentioning that I am a devout Catholic who spends this time celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ the savior. And while this is how I choose to celebrate during the winter season, there are many other nations or religions that celebrate it in different ways. Now I’m not going to act like I know every single tradition that goes with every single winter holiday, because I don’t. However there is one common theme I’ve seen throughout these various holidays which is what I want to focus on today: the feeling of peace, love, and joy.

Whether you’re celebrating Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or any other holiday in December, I think we can all agree that around this general time of year, most people set aside said time to be a bit nicer to people, enjoy time with their families, or simply have some fun with people out in the snow (if you even have snow where you live). There are even some symbols and traditions that are more synonymous with the winter season, not specifically Christmas, like snowmen, snowball fights, gift giving, sledding down the hills, and decorating our homes. The winter season is a time of happiness, generosity, peace, and forgiveness. Of course, there are always those people who argue that this time of year is just a huge commercial riot facilitated by big corporations, and while that is true to a certain extent, that’s not to say it’s all bad. To a point, it’s that sense of commercialism that can facilitate the good feelings that are associated with the season, whether it be a gift for a family member, a card to send to an old friend, or even a pair of gloves so you can spend more time out on the snow. Obviously, there should be a line drawn, so as not to let that commercialism take over, but now we’re starting to get off-topic. What’s important is that this time of the year is a time set aside for family, friends, and colleagues to settle their differences, share a drink, or be a little bit nicer to people. So whether you’re celebrating Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Festivus, or simply enjoying the falling snow, take a minute to call someone. It could be a family member, a friend, an old roommate, an old army buddy, or even a loose acquaintance, and just tell them “Hey, you’re awesome, I’m blessed to have in my life!” Just that one little gesture will light up someone’s holiday, and it will only make your holiday that much better. In any case, gents, I wish you all a merry Christmas, and a happy New Year!

Gentleman's Philosophy

Why Art is Important to a Young Gentleman

Morning gents! To start this post, I need to ask this question. What is art? If you ask that question to a hundred different people, you’ll likely get a hundred different answers. The way I define art, however, is as follows: any medium that allows someone to express emotion outside of natural human expression, like speech and natural movement. This is a large umbrella of media, including visual art, music, dance, theater, photography, even film, architecture and cooking. Art is arguably the biggest defining feature of any nation’s culture, and the United States is no different. Our nation’s culture has been defined by great musicians like Louis Armstrong and John Williams, film directors like Stanley Kubrick, George Lucas, and Steven Spielberg, and overall creative icons like Walt Disney. However, in today’s society, U.S. culture is also being defined by something else; it has practically become taboo for men past a certain age to express any sort of emotion other than stoicism and bravery. Any man who shows any kind of fear, sadness, or any other natural human emotion is seen as weak, or the beta male (which likely will deserves a post in its own right explaining the absurdity of that idea). So in a culture where men are seen as weak and “not real men” for naturally expressing emotion, studying art is starting to become more and more important to a young man. While a man will be harshly criticized for expressing emotion the way any human would naturally, he will be substantially less criticized for using art to express said emotion (though he may be seriously judged for practicing certain kinds of music or dance, which is just as ridiculous). So while any of you young men reading this may be made fun of or criticized for actually speaking your emotions, consider pursuing art. I’ve found my outlet in music. I have friends who are musicians, some are very skilled chefs, and other men I know are even extremely talented actors! In a society that won’t accept you if you show emotion regularly,  hopefully you can find another way to express yourself that you enjoy.

I know this post was much less formulaic than my last few posts, but I hope any of you young men reading this are able to take it to heart and find a constructive outlet to express yourself. Be sure to follow the blog and check out any of The Young Gentleman’s Guide’s’ posts. Also make sure to check out all our social media pages, send TYGG an email at, and let me know how any of your artistic endeavors go! Until next time, gents, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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The Gentleman’s Guide to the Perfect Suit/Tuxedo

Evening gents! Now, you might have a big event coming up where you’ll need to dress up a bit. It could be a wedding, a job interview, a school dance, or anything similar. With so many of such events happening in a gentleman’s life, it’s always a good idea for a gentleman to have a decent suit or tuxedo in his closet. So today, I’m going to give you a guide about how to talk to a tailor and get your tux or suit ordered (or rented), but first things first!


Suit vs. Tuxedo

One thing that most men wonder is this: what is the difference between a suit and a tux? I didn’t even know for a while. I only found out when I started doing research for this post, and the difference is simple. The main physical difference is the presence of satin. Tuxedos have satin lining in the lapel, pocket trim, buttons, and a satin stripe on the pants. Suits are devoid of satin and the buttons are often made of either plastic or the same material that the jacket is made of. Tuxedos are traditionally worn with a bowtie and either a cummerbund or a vest, whereas a suit is traditionally worn with just a long tie. Now, there are some who like to wear a long tie with a tuxedo (like in the photo shown above) or a bowtie with a suit, and that’s perfectly fine. Just keep in mind that the other way around is more common and traditional. Be sure you know what kind of outfit you want when you talk to a tailor.


Know your measurements

Now that you know what the difference between a suit and a tux, it’s time to get it ordered. Now in today’s day and age, you can find multiple websites where you can order a suit or tux online and have it delivered. Such sites will likely ask for your measurements. Now, there are four (4) main measurements you should be concerned about when dealing with this: neck, arm, waist, and leg. Your neck measurement will determine the cut of your shirt’s collar and tie (which will most likely be a clip-on), and your arm measurements will also determine the cut of your shirt’s sleeves as well as your jacket. Your waist and leg measurements will determine the cut of your pants. If you don’t know your measurements, they’re rather easy to figure out. Your natural body proportions will determine most of the cuts of your tux. Start with your pants. Since I’m hoping most of you reading this have bought pants before and have learned your measurements for your legs and waist, you should have this part down. My pants size is 34 waist 32 legs. As such, my body proportions determine that my shirt size is 16 – 34/35 and my jacket size is 40 short.  If you’re confused about all this, use this link.

That link will help determine the size of the elements of your tux; pants, jacket, and all. My height, 5’10” matches up with most of the measurements found on the website, so check it out for yourself! But if you’re going to buy or rent your tux from an actual tailor, you can just ask the tailor to take your actual measurements, and they’ll cut your suit or tux accordingly.


Know what color/material you want


For those getting ready for prom or senior ball, this is a big one. Now, if you’re renting your tux or suit for something like what I do with with orchestra performances, a traditional black tux is generally the best option. However, if you need your tux or suit needs to fit a certain theme or match your date’s outfit for prom or senior ball, as is tradition, then simply let the tailor know so. In the case of my sister’s wedding (a picture of which is shown above), there was a prevalent lavender theme, so the bridesmaids all wore lavender dresses, and the groomsmen all rented grey tuxes with lavender ties and pocket squares. If you’re renting a tux for prom or senior ball, it’s smart to show the tailor a picture of your date’s dress so they can get an idea of what material to use for the accents (which generally consist of the tie, vest, and pocket square).


There we go! Follow these steps and you’ll have a fine looking suit or tuxedo for any of life’s big events! Be sure to follow me on all social medias found in the Social Media tab of the blog’s homepage and send me pics of your tuxes. Make sure to read any of the blog’s recent posts as well, which you can find links to in the sidebar.  Until next time, gents, this is Max from Men in the Making, and I’ll see you next time!

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4 Steps To Being A Good Party Guest

Evening gents! Sorry about the lack of posts lately, I’ve extremely busy with work and performances, but from this point, I’m going to try and get a post out once a week. Anyways, onto the topic of today’s post!

So the holidays are in full swing, now that Thanksgiving has just recently passed and Christmas is on the horizon. And with the holidays now going strong, it’s likely that many who read this will be or have already been invited to a holiday party of some sort. Now, for those attending a party, it can be a great time to relax and spend time with friends. However, for the host, they will be incredibly stressed out trying to get the food ready, keep the guests entertained, and generally keep things moving along. If you follow these simple steps, not only will it ease the host’s stress but it will also create a much better environment for the other guests. So, before this turns into a full-length novel, let’s start the list!

1. Make sure to RSVP

Now, this is something that can help the host before the party even begins. “RSVP” stands for “Réspondez s’il vous plait,” which is “please respond” in French. If an invitation requests that you RSVP, it simply means that the host wants to know whether or not you will attend. Unfortunately, in recent years, people have started to view the RSVP as optional, even though it’s one of the most important things you can do to show respect to your host. When you RSVP, you are helping your host prepare various things for the party, i.e. how much food to prepare, where to hold the party, and how many places at the table to prepare if it’s a dinner party. If you don’t RSVP, you end up leaving your host guessing as to how many people to prepare for, which only creates more stress for them.

 2. If it’s a dinner party, offer to bring something

Speaking of dinner parties, the biggest part of a dinner party is, obviously, the dinner. Your host will obviously be scrambling to get everything ready for all their guests. So in order to ease some of that stress, offer to bring something to help them. A gentleman never arrives empty-handed. When you RSVP, just ask if you can bring something. Such things can be an hors d’oeuvre, a salad, a dessert, or even a bottle of wine (if you’re older than 21, that is). And it doesn’t have to be anything extremely elaborate, it can just be a plate of cheese & crackers, a pan of brownies, or a simple tossed-together bowl of salad. Doing so will not only put less stress on your host, but also add some variety to whatever is being served.

3. Come with conversation in mind

Don’t be the burnout. The whole reason you even go to the party in the first place is to hang out with friends and have a good time, but if you’re not prepared to talk to them, you’ll just end up bored and embarrassed. Think of some conversation topics on your way over. You could talk about a recent trip you went on, a movie you saw recently, something colloquial. Another thing is to consider the host and other guests. What are they interested in? What to you and they have in common? And just like in my last post about how to date, divisive and controversial subjects like politics and religion should generally be avoided.

4. Eat and drink responsibly

Finally, we come to possibly the most important part of the list: don’t overdo it! If you come to a party absolutely starving, piling everything you can onto your plate, you’ll just look like a slob, which would be embarrassing to the host as well as other guests. On the other hand, don’t come to the party completely stuffed, and unwilling to eat anything. This is simply rude to your host, as they have prepared all this food for you, yet you don’t want to eat it. And as far as drinking goes (again, only if you’re over 21), just know your limits. Don’t leave the party feeling like you could pass out on their front porch as you’re leaving. But you should never arrive after having a few drinks either.

So there we go! Follow these four (4) steps and you’ll be on your way to being the life of any party (but hopefully not the center of attention). Hopefully if you follow them, your host will not only invite you to more of their parties, but they’ll most likely accept invitations to your own parties. Be sure to follow me on all my social media, all found on the front page of the blog, and let me know how all your party experiences go! So until next time gents, this is Max from Men in the Making and I’ll see you next time!


How to Date

Afternoon gents! So, I recently read an article from the Odyssey Online called “Why We Need To Start Dating Again.” It was a fantastic article which I’ll include a link to right here

After reading that, I instantly knew it had to become a post on the blog. So today, I’m going to give you four (4) easy steps on how to date more properly. Now, for those of you who saw the video on my YouTube channel about ways to improve your first date, some of those things may apply to this post as well. So without any further ado, let’s start the list!

1. Ask her out in person

Now this applies before the date even starts. Now, in today’s increasingly digital age, it’s easy to just ask the girl you like out on a date over text message, Facebook Message, Snapchat, etc. And it’s because of this that asking someone out to their face is practically unheard of nowadays. But there is a huge problem with this. Without that direct channel,  you won’t be able to see her reaction to your proposition! Whether she’s single, taken, or just not currently interested in dating, she will, more often than not, be extremely flattered that you want to date her. And I get it, it can be extremely nerve-wracking, but the worst she can say is no. It’s not the end of the world if she doesn’t want to go out with you. It’s not like she’ll never want to speak to you again, she just doesn’t have those same feelings that you have. (On that note, there’s no such thing as the fabled “friend zone. If she doesn’t want to go out with you, just leave it at that.)

2. Set a time and stick to it

More often that not, all you hear about when someone goes on a date is that the person’s date was late either to meet them at the place or to pick them up (and yes, being “fashionably late”, whatever that means, still counts) . This is a problem not only with dating today, but with people in general. People don’t seem to value punctuality as much as they used to. The best thing when you ask someone out, hopefully in person like I mentioned earlier, you two should establish a time either to meet at wherever you two are planning to go, or for one of you to pick the other one up. You’ll just be asking for trouble if you can’t show up on time.

3. If you pick her up, go to her front door

We’ve all experienced it; someone picking someone else  up at their house and them just texting them saying “I’m here.” To those people, I have to ask: what’s wrong with going to their front door? It’s a great way to leave an impression on your date, and it could even be a way to introduce yourself to your date’s parents. Again,  I understand. It can be incredibly nerve-wracking, and it could be incredibly awkward, but it’s not the end of the world. So one small aspect of the date is kind of awkward. So what? It’s a date, it’s inevitable that not everything will exactly as planned. Just continue with the date and have fun!

4. Keep conversation colloquial

Up until now, all these tips apply before the actual date starts. But now that you’re out on the date, you need to keep your date engaged while you’re out. Obviously, you’ll have a conversation while you guys are out, but you need to keep what you’re talking about appropriate. You’ll clearly want to avoid any sensitive or controversial topics such as religion or politics, unless you two share similar views on such things, but for the most part, it should be avoided. Just keep things simple; if you guys are both in school, talk to each other about what you’re studying or what classes you’re taking. If you’re both working, talk about your jobs, what you do, or what your schedules look like (which could really help in setting up future dates). Those are just a few examples though. You could talk about your families, your hobbies, your favorite movies, etc. Again, anything except religion and politics.

So there you go! Follow these four (4) steps, and you’ll be on your way to a great date! Don’t worry if things get awkward, just keep it natural and enjoy each other’s company. If you follow these steps, things should go really well between you and your lady friend, and you could even have more dates in the future!

Be sure to follow me on social media and let me know how any of your dates go following these tips. Until next time, this is Max from Men in the Making, and I’ll see you next time!