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How to Speak Like a Gentleman

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! As strange as the subject of today’s article may be, I think it’s an incredibly important thing for young men to know. And when  I say “speak like a gentleman”, I actually don’t mean how to speak more eloquently, though I may get to that in a later article. I literally mean how to give your voice that specific tone and timbre in order to make it sound more mature and, for lack of a better word, “manly.” So without any further delay, let’s get started!

In reality, there’s really only one real tip I can give to improve your gentlemanly voice, but trust me, they will go a long way. This is actually a technique I learned for singing that applies just as well to speaking. This can be a bit difficult to explain, but in short, what you’ll want to do is focus your voice more into your head or hard palate. If you don’t understand me, here’s a good way to test yourself. Plug your nose and try to speak. As silly as that sounds, this is the perfect way to practice this. Pretty much everybody tends to focus their voice into the front of their heads and their nose, and if you were to plug your nose while speaking that way, you’d most likely end up with the stereotypical squeaky, nasally voice that I’m sure we’ve heard before. But if you focus your voice properly, you should be able to speak with your normal voice even with your nose plugged (even though you’ll still get “d” and “b” sounds when trying to pronounce “n” and “m”). And even after you unplug your nose and continue to focus your voice this way, you may notice that your voice is just more full and more resonant. Whether you’re giving a presentation, meeting someone new, or just conversing with friends, it’ll make you sound so much more mature and sophisticated.

So there it is! Follow this one simple tip, and I’m sure you’ll win over a ton of people with your voice. I’ll get to the eloquence and actual words of speech later on in another article, but if there’s anything else you can think of to help improve these young gentlemans’ voices, please leave it in the comments below! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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The Gentleman’s Guide to Approaching/Flirting with Women

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Today’s article is, surprise surprise, inspired by another article by Elena from A Vintage Athenian. In this article, Elena speaks about how the art of flirtation has evolved over the years. She gives some optimal advice for both young men and women to heed when approaching each other in the romantic manner. So today, I thought I would throw my hat into the ring and give you young gents some pointers on how to snag some digits from that certain woman.

1. Approach her in person

I’m sure we’ve all done or seen it before. Someone leaves a flirtatious comment under an attractive woman’s photo online in an attempt to woo her, which more often than not leads to nothing developing unless he then “slides into her DMs” as people say. Technology has no doubt played a huge role in how we interact with people, but it has seriously downplayed the art of flirtation. If you really want to win over a lady, you should approach her in person. Even if nothing develops between the two of you, you’ll still end up developing a better connection than you would just send messages back and forth on Facebook.

2. Be complementary, but not predatory

While the line between those two adjectives seems to be dissolving more and more as time goes on, a real gentleman knows the difference between complimenting a woman and acting like an animal. If you want to compliment a woman without being creepy or predatory, complement on what she’s wearing or how she has her hair done. Saying something like “That dress looks great on you” or “I love how you’ve done your hair” will be much more flattering to a woman than saying you like her breasts or her rear. While those two things can definitely contribute to how attractive a woman is to you, straight up commenting on her body like that can be incredibly demeaning, not to mention it just makes you look and sound like an animal.

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3. Don’t be too pushy

This is probably the most difficult line specifically for men to draw. There are very few things to be admired more than a gentleman with ambition, determination, and persistence. That said, there is a difference between pursuing a woman and being pushy. If you’re pursuing a woman, you strike up a conversation with her and try to get to know her, but you also recognize if she’s not interested, and stop pursuing her then. Being pushy means that you keep trying to have a conversation with her even if she’s already made it clear, whether verbally or not, that she’s not interested. And there is no circumstance in which you should ever chase after her. By that point you’ll just appear to be desperate, and no one, especially a woman would find that attractive.

4. Just be yourself

I know this may sound like just typical bumper sticker advice, but even as cliché as it may sound, it will go a long way. You should obviously be confident whenever you approach a woman, but there is a huge difference between being confident and being fake. If you end up striking a conversation, keep it colloquial, and just talk about things that she might find attractive in you. In my case, I would most likely tell her that I play in a band. It’s simple, colloquial, and a lot of ladies might find that attractive. Just be confident, be yourself, and keep it simple.

So there we have it! I’m obviously not saying that all of these plans are completely foolproof, but I’m willing to bet that any of you gents who practice these things will end up snagging some digits before the end of the night! If there are any tips we may have missed, please let us know in the comments, send us an email at younggentlemansguide@gmail.com, or check out Elena’s article about this subject! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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The Gentleman’s Quick Cocktail Guide, Part 2

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So, if you couldn’t guess by the title, today’s article will be a continuation of the first cocktail guide I put up back in January. If you missed it, the link is right here. I thought that article was incredibly fun to make, so I thought I would bring you some more drinks to share with your friends at your next get-together!

Disclaimer: While I will be talking about alcoholic beverages and encouraging my readers to enjoy said beverages, I also encourage them to drink responsibly. I will not be responsible for the consequences of your actions if you overdrink or get behind the wheel while intoxicated. Please be careful and know your limits.

1. Tom Collins

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Ingredients: 2 oz of gin, 1 oz of fresh lemon juice, 1/2 of simple syrup, club soda, garnish with 2 lemon slices

The drink so popular they named the glass after it! Originating in England after being memorialized in the Fortnightly Review magazine in 1891, this drink can be the perfect summer refresher. It’s almost like a more classy and adult variation of lemonade.

2. Mint Julep

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1⁄4 oz of raw sugar syrup, 8 mint leaves, 2 oz of bourbon, garnish with 1 mint sprig

Introduced by U.S. Senator Henry Clay of Kentucky during the eighteenth century, this is a classy drink most commonly associated with the American South and the Kentucky Derby. Pretty much anyone who enjoys classic “minty freshness” will be in for a real treat with this cocktail.

3. White Russian

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2 oz of vodka, 1 oz of kahlúa, heavy cream (or milk depending on your tastes)

Anyone who’s seen the 1998 Coen Brothers film The Big Lebowski knows that this is the beverage of choice for Jeffrey “The Dude” Lebowski. In fact, it was that movie that brought this drink back into the sunlight, since it was never really that popular since it was introduced in 1965. Nonetheless, this can be an interesting cocktail for those looking for something a little outside the box.

4. Screwdriver

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1 1/2 oz of vodka, orange juice

First appearing in literature as far back as 1938, this cocktail can be a perfect alternative to the mimosa, which I mentioned in the last cocktail guide. Just as refreshing as the mimosa, this beverage can be the perfect choice with your Sunday brunch.

5. Irish Coffee

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Ingredients: 1 1/2 oz of Irish Whiskey, 1 oz brown sugar syrup, hot brewed coffee

While the term “Irish coffee” can refer to most alcoholic coffee drinks colloquially, nowadays the term is most commonly associated with this recipe that most people are familiar with. Travel writer Stanton Delaplane is credited with bringing it to the US after working with the Buena Vista Cafe to start serving it back as early as 1952. Anyone looking for either an accompaniment to their breakfast or a decent nightcap should give this one a try!

So there we have it! Those are just five (5) more cocktails for you gents to try and experiment with. For those who are wonder, most of the recipes I found for this guide came from liquor.com, so if there are any other cocktails you’re interested in looking into, be sure to check them out! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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How a Gentleman Deals With Emotion

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Today, I’m going to talk about something I’m sure a lot of young men would not be the most comfortable talking about: our emotions. This can be a bit of a touchy subject for anyone, especially young men. Not only that, but it’s practically become a joke at this point that the only emotion traditional young men are allowed to experience and/or display is anger while keeping all the rest of his emotions completely suppressed. But I’m here today to tell you this: that assertion of how a man should act is completely ridiculous and untrue. Emotions run deep within any rational human being, and young men are no exception. It is perfectly acceptable for a young gentleman to feel and display emotions, but there are a select number of ways that he should deal with them. So today, I’m going to talk about the proper way a young gentleman should deal with his emotions. Let’s get started!

For starters, it’s important to remember that experiencing any kind of emotion is perfectly reasonable and acceptable. Happiness, sadness, fear, anger, and all the rest are all natural emotions that have helped humans survive and evolve for millenia. There is no shame in feeling any sort of emotion, but what’s important for a gentleman to know is that he shouldn’t let that emotion get the better of him. What I mean by that is that even if a gentleman happens to feel an emotion at a certain moment, he shouldn’t let that emotion overtake him. Obviously, emotion can be a huge spark for making all sorts of decisions, especially split-second decisions or having to act on instinct. However, if history has shown us anything, it’s that making immediate decisions based solely on emotion has more often than not ended in disaster. While there is no shame in experiencing emotion in any way, it shouldn’t be the sole motivator for a gentleman’s actions. But there is something else about emotion that young men should keep in mind: how to display emotion.

Like I’ve been saying, emotions run deep within the human race. They’ve helped humans survive and evolve for thousands of years, and still do to this day. That being said, it can become quite a problem when a gentleman just lets his emotions run wild. In general, young men should try to be relatively calm and composed, even when faced with situations that stir up their emotions (I’ll mostly be talking about fear, anger, and sadness here). It’s like the example you would hear all the time in grade school: true bravery is not the absence of fear, but rather the courage to work through it. When faced with a situation where he’s afraid, a gentleman will continue to push through it, even if the situation makes him uncomfortable. Similarly, a gentleman won’t lash out and shout at people if he’s angry. There might be a certain situation or something someone said to him that makes him angry, but he wouldn’t show that in public. A gentleman should vent his anger in private to someone he trusts, or he should do something like hit a punching bag or play a video game (which is usually how I let out my anger). Also, a gentleman will let the sadness of something like a hard breakup or loss of a family member affect him to the point of not performing as well in school or work. A true gentleman will take time to mourn (more so after a loss of a family member), and maybe take time off of work or school in order to mourn. Your teacher, boss, peers, and colleagues will understand if you have to that. He doesn’t let his emotions affect his performance at school and/or work. He also doesn’t let them affect how he lives his day-to-day life.

Before I wrap up, I want to say once again that none of this is to imply that a gentleman can’t feel emotions at all. I’m just trying to say that there is an appropriate time and place to vent and display those emotions. Letting out your emotions through physical activity, playing video games, venting to a family member or someone else you trust, or even through art (something I go into a bit more right here) can be a great way for young gents to balance themselves out. Emotions are important and they run very deep in the human race. There is no shame in feeling or displaying emotion, there is just an appropriate time for both men and women to do so. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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The Gentleman’s Guide to the 4th of July

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So, today’s article will really only apply if those of you reading live in the United States, (and I’ve been seeing a lot more readers from outside the U.S. lately) but today I wanted to give you not necessarily a guide like the title may suggest, but just ways that I’ve celebrated America’s Independence day in years past in the hopes that I can give you readers some inspiration in case you need to find something to do (except I won’t be including things like parades or fireworks shows, since those are both essentially a given). So without any further delay, let’s get started!

1. A barbecue

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It’s no secret that one of the cornerstones of American culture is the typical barbecue, whether it be at a park, a picnic area, or even your backyard. So it’s also no surprise that one of the best ways to celebrate the 4th is such a barbecue. Get together with some friends and family, grill some burgers and hot dogs, have some corn on the cob, and maybe have a beer or a patriotic cocktail (thanks to liquor.com for that inspiration)! This is just the perfect carefree way to celebrate the America’s independence, not to mention the most delicious!

2. Family get-together

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This may or may not go hand-in-hand with the aforementioned barbecue, but it’s still a great way to celebrate the holiday. This is a tradition we hold dear in my family. We always get together at my grandparents’ vacation house in the small town of Independence, California to celebrate with everyone (except we can’t do it this year since so many people are so busy). But in any case, getting to spend Independence with friends and family is sure to make the celebration that much more jovial and exciting!

3. Listening to American music

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Obviously one of the biggest cornerstones of the culture of any nation is its music, and the United States is no different. In my opinion, the best way to show appreciation for our country and its independence is listening to classic American music. And I’m not talking about typical American pop like Miley Cyrus’ Party in the USA, I mean songs and artists that truly represent America and its freedom. Things like Bruce Springsteen’s Born to Run, the Glenn Miller Orchestra’s In the Mood, Gershwin’s Rhapsody in Blue. For those of you who are interested, I actually have a 4th of July playlist on Spotify that would be great for your 4th of July celebrations!

4. Honoring your American Heroes

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Glenn Miller, one of my personal American heroes

This one might sound a little strange, but bear with me. Last year on 4th of July, I decided to put up a post on my personal Instagram showcasing a collection of people who are my personal American heroes. I believe that doing something like this shows a much better appreciation for America, its freedom, and its people. If any of you reading this decide to do something like this, please be sure to let me know, I would be very happy to see a post like that spread!

So there we have it! Those are just some of the ways I’ve celebrated Independence Day in the past, and I’m hoping this at least gave you an inspiration for something you might want to do to add to the celebration of America’s independence. I hope you all have a very happy and safe Independence Day, stay safe, drink responsibly, and be very careful with fireworks! I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and God bless America!