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How to be Single

Evening gents! It’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here. Today, I thought it would be nice to reach out to all you bachelors out there. Now, being in a relationship with a nice lady can be an incredibly satisfying and happy experience, but being single is incredibly satisfying as well. I know I myself go through phases of enjoying being single, but I also go through phases where I can’t stand it. So in this post, I’m going to show you how you can enjoy being single 100% of the time in three (3) easy steps! (Also if this post gets taken down, please know that this is in no way infringing on the copyright of the movie)

1. Spend time with friends

The whole point of being in a relationship is having someone to spend time with someone you’re close to who’s willing to support you in whatever you do. While there’s obviously a more romantic (and eventually marital) edge to having a girlfriend, your friends are there to do the same thing. Your friends are there to support you, and are, more often than not, sad to see you upset, and happy when you’re happy. Plus you can never beat a classic poker night with the guys, or heading out to a movie with your buddies! So while you may not have a significant other, spending time with your friends can offer the same amount of emotional high that going out on a date with someone.

2. Invest your emotions in art

If you were to ask any artist why they take part in their craft, whether it be a painter, a musician, a filmmaker, or anything similar, nine (9) times out of ten (10), they will say that they do it for emotional catharsis. They let their emotions speak through their art. In fact, emotional release is likely the biggest reason art even exists in the first place. In fact, some of the greatest artistic masterpieces were products of emotional hardships. Now it’s no surprise that a breakup, or just the general despair of being single can be pretty difficult. If you need to let out your emotions, try doodling, play an instrument, try writing a poem. As lame or “girly” as that sounds, you’ll find that it’s a much better way to release your emotions than binging three seasons of The Office and gorging yourself on ice cream and peanut butter.

3. TALK TO PEOPLE!

When it comes to letting out your emotions, nothing works better than actually talking to people about them. Whether it be a friend, family member, or anyone else you trust, talking about how you’re feeling will be an even better emotional release than even art. Because only another human being can properly respond and react to the emotions you show them. and if you trust them, they will always be willing to listen. Talking to someone and just letting your emotions flow out will make you feel so much better, it’s that simple.

So there we have it! Follow these steps, and being single will be a breeze! Again, While being in a relationship can be an amazing and happy time, being single can also be very liberating, allowing you time to just discover yourself and spend time with other people you care about. I hope all you gents enjoyed reading the post, and I wish you the best of luck in any future relationships. Be sure to share this post with a friend, and follow the blog on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. On that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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Big Bad Voodoo Daddy: The Perfect Model for Gentlemen

Evening gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide! Now, I might be a little biased about this, seeing as they’re my favorite band, but I’m serious, the nine (9) guys of Big Bad Voodoo Daddy can really serve as role models for any up and coming gentleman. Aside from their look with their suits and hats, the way they act on and offstage is enough for any young man to look up to. So today, I’m going to give you four (4) points that show how the musicians of BBVD are, indeed, perfect gentlemen!

1. There is no formal frontman

While it’s true that Big Bad Voodoo Daddy’s lead singer and guitar player, Scotty Morris, is the founder and “frontman” of the band, he does not hog all the attention. He acknowledges and directs the attention to the rest of the band throughout their entire performance. Whenever one of the other players performs a solo or plays a phenomenal riff, they take center stage for that solo of riff, and then go back to their place in the band. So while there seems to be a “frontman” onstage at all times, in reality, it’s all about the band and the music. No one person in the band hogs all the attention. In today’s day and age where modern pop stars are the total center of attention and give next to no attention to their backup band (without which, they could not even perform), it’s nice to see that every single person on stage is given credit where credit it is rightfully due.

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2. Most of them are family men

Now, I can’t pretend that I know every little thing about a parent, but I’m willing to say that being a parent is one of the manliest things a man can do! I takes a lot of strength and patience to raise a child. So think about this: the guys of Big Bad Voodoo Daddy are touring and performing up to 290 days a year! This includes holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. Could you imagine doing that while also being a husband and father? That clearly takes 10 times that amount of strength and patience. I’ve even met some of the guys’ kids (and even played in a school band with one of them) and they say it’s not very different from having a regular parent. It just makes them all the more admirable, knowing that they perform all the time and are still going strong while still being husbands and raising families.

3. They genuinely care about their fans and supporters

One of the biggest things that bugs me the most about a lot of modern pop stars is that they make everything about them, and generally don’t acknowledge their fanbase (I refer you to the time when Justin Bieber spat on his fans while at his apartment). What really bugs me about it is that without their fans, musicians wouldn’t be able to do what they do, and this is what Big Bad Voodoo Daddy does so well. My sophomore year of high school, the Ventura Unified School District put together a big music and arts festival at my high school to showcase the wonderful art that can and has come out of my hometown of Ventura, California. Headlining the event was Big Bad Voodoo Daddy, as they themselves are from Ventura. While they could have easily booked a much bigger venue than a high school, even in Ventura, they still agreed and were excited to perform for the event. Why? Because they knew that their biggest fanbase was in Ventura, and genuinely care about the well-being of arts programs from their own hometown. But aside from that, they just care about their fans, holding special clinics for middle and high school music students, and they often stick around after their shows to autograph merchandise and interact with their audience. Be honest, how many musicians can you think of that actually do that? Sure, some may be around after their shows to sign autographs and all that, very few of them stick around to interact with their fans, take photos, or even answer questions like Big Bad Voodoo Daddy does. It just shows how much they appreciate their fans and how they wouldn’t be able to do what they do without them.

4. They only do it for love of the music

Coming from such humble beginnings, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy has made it abundantly clear what they care about from the perspective of being a band: the music. They don’t care about making a spectacle, they just care about playing great music for people to enjoy. While yes, they do dance and play around onstage and make their performance a spectacle, it’s not their main priority. It’s the integrity of their art form that matters the most to them. My definition of success is to do what what you do and love what you do. As gentlemen should, they do what they love for the service of the people.

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So there it is! Not only do they look the part, but the guys of Big Bad Voodoo Daddy act the part of what a perfect gentleman should be! Between being family men despite how often they’re performing away from home, caring about their fans, not one guy hogging all the onstage attention, and just simply loving what they do, I aspire to be as much of a gentleman as these guys (also to create such incredible swing music). In all seriousness, for those of you who haven’t heard any of their music, look them up. Most of their music is available in iTunes and Spotify, plus they have a new album coming out in June! Or if you have a chance to see them live, you absolutely should! I hope you enjoyed reading the post, and I would appreciate it if you shared it with a friend. Also be sure to follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and read any past posts from the blog. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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The Importance of Punctuality

Evening gents! It’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here, and today I’m going to talk to you about something that I am a huge stickler for: punctuality. I always make a huge deal about showing up on time, no matter what it is. Two of my life mottos are “If you aren’t going to show up on time, why bother showing up?” and “If you’re early, you’re on time, and if you’re on time, you’re late”. This applies to everything I attend; classes, job interviews, concerts, parties, and the like. Unfortunately, not many people seem to make as much of a priority out of being on time as I do. So today, I’m going to give you three (3) simple reasons why punctuality is so important.

1. It gives you more time to prepare

Now, this may not apply to everything you attend, but it can help especially if you’re participating in an athletic event or performing in a concert or play. Anyone who’s ever participated in these events has most likely had a call time, usually for a soundcheck or team warmup. However, it’s even better to show up even earlier than your call time, because it gives you more time to get warmed up if you need the time to do so. As a trumpet player, I can personally attest to this, as it can take up to twenty (20) minutes for me to completely and properly warm up, even before sound check. Or, if you’re in a play, you could have to do a quick line run-through before setting up for soundcheck or getting into costume. So, if you need some extra warmup time before your concert, play or game, just show up a bit early!

2. You can help set up for the event

Whether it’s a party, a concert, or anything in between, whoever’s hosting the event will likely be scrambling to get everything ready. If you show up early and offer to help the host set up for the event, it will not only alleviate the host’s stress immensely, but it will also help the event run more smoothly since no one in stressing over getting everything set up in time. Plus, like what I said in my post about being a better party guest (which I have linked right here if you missed it http://wp.me/p7U271-1O), helping the host and alleviating their stress will likely get them to invite you to more of their events in the future!

3. It shows that you care

This ESPECIALLY applies if you’re going to a class or a job interview, but it can also help in any of the other events I have mentioned above. Showing up early for whatever event you’re going to simply shows the host, interviewer or your teacher that you care about being there. If you show up late for any reason (with obvious exceptions for emergency situations like a sudden traffic accident or having to tend to an injured person), it shows that you simply don’t care about being there, which is why I say that showing up late is just as disrespectful as not showing up at all. Plus if you arrive early for a job interview, it will present a good impression to your prospective employer and you’d be more likely to get hired. Arriving to any event on time simply shows that you care and that you really want to be there!

So that’s it! If you ever thought that being punctual wasn’t important, here’s to hoping that this post has changed your mind at least a little bit. I hope you enjoyed this post, and feel free to leave a comment, follow the blog, and share this post with a friend! Also be sure to follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. Be sure to also read any of the past posts from the blog. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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My Exciting Announcement!

Evening gents! I’m sorry in advance for how short this post is going to be. I actually have another post in the works which should be out on Monday, but for the time being, I have something exciting to share with you! I haven’t really talked about it on the blog before, but I am currently taking classes at community college in hopes of transferring to a 4-year university after two years. And after said two years, I’m excited to say that my wish has come true! This coming fall, I will be attending San Francisco State University! I will be studying Music Education in the hopes of earning my bachelor’s degree.  I’m so incredibly excited to start this next chapter, and I’m more than looking forward to seeing what SFSU and I’m hoping to share some experiences with you guys! Again, I’m sorry for how short this post is, I just wanted to let you know of an exciting occurrence in my life! Well, that’s all I have to say for now, so I’ll see you next week! This is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide and I’ll see you next time!

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Do NOT Support This Site!!

Evening gents! Today I’m going to talk about something that genuinely makes me sick and makes me question my overall faith in humanity. In case you missed the featured image, what I’m talking about is a website is called the Return of Kings. They’re essentially a small community of activists that promote “neomasculinity”. You don’t really need to know what that means, but essentially, they believe that masculine, heterosexual men should be and are the norm, and that homosexuals, feminists, and gender equality are a poison that is bringing western civilization to a screeching halt. They also that a woman’s value is only dependent on only two things: her fertility and her beauty. Yes, you read that correctly. They believe that a woman’s only purpose in the world is to look pretty and make babies. They also mix up the meaning of “feminism,” and think it’s a system used to oppress and demean men. Seriously, try to say that and not either laugh or cringe. But it doesn’t stop there. They are actually huge hypocrites, encouraging sexual promiscuity among men, but outright shaming women who act as such, stating that it’s “damaging to the familial unit.” I wish I was making that up. On top of that, they actively reject any and all Hollywood movies since they think Hollywood is indoctrinating people into thinking that only women can be the hero, and that all the male characters are either the villain or a bumbling idiot. And while some of you may have your own opinions about those who post to or regularly read this site, I want to throw my hat into the ring and tell you why you should NOT support Return of Kings in any way, shape, or form.

So aside from the treasure trove of reasons I’ve already presented, there’s another big reason not to support these blatant misogynists. They are completely ignorant of the meaning of “masculinity” and “femininity” in today’s constantly evolving society, and it seems like those terms are really becoming obsolete. Now don’t get me wrong, I believe that on a pure scientific and biological level, women are different than men. But in today’s society, I believe that any woman should and does have the same opportunities that a man has. The “men” who support Return of Kings are clearly ignorant of the fact that women have started to become some of the most prominent politicians, CEOs, doctors, and professors in the world. Plus, there are so many hardworking women in the world who are also mothers! Now, I can’t even pretend to speak for anyone who’s a mother, but I can say that it has to be one of the most empowering things for any woman. But it’s not just that, the standards for men are constantly changing too, just ask any single dad out there. It’s actually socially acceptable, to a certain extent, for a man to open up emotionally outside of the arts (which I wrote an entirely separate post on, shameless plug ;D). Men can also feel more comfortable in their body even if they aren’t the stereotypical model with chiseled abs and all that nonsense. Men like that would make Return of Kings cringe! With today’s constantly evolving perceptions of masculinity and femininity, it just makes Return of Kings seem all the more ignorant and bigoted.

It honestly disturbs me so much that I even have to write this post right now, but sometimes the right thing has to be done. Don’t get me wrong, I am a massive proponent of free speech, but it seems like the “men” who support Return of Kings are living 200 years in the past. What they say is borderline hate speech against feminists, transexuals, homosexuals, and women in general who deviate from the outdated “gender roles” that Return of Kings hold themselves to. Hopefully those of you who read this post share it and hopefully assist in getting the website shut down. Also, to all who read this, please just share the same amount of respect to all people in your life, man, woman, or otherwise.

On that note, I think that’s all I have for now. Be sure to follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, follow the blog, and read any other post on the blog. But until next time, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you on Friday!