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What the Wilderness can Teach a Young Gentleman

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! For today’s article, I’m going to draw a lot from my experience as a Boy Scout and attempt to teach you young gents reading this how the great outdoors are a true gentleman’s playground and classroom. So let’s not waste any time and get right into it!

1. Self-Preservation

While I’ve obviously never been in a situation where I’ve had to survive in the wilderness by myself, I’m confident that the skills I’ve learned as an Eagle Scout could help me survive for at least a little bit if the situation called for it. After seven (7) years of going on hikes and campouts with my Boy Scout troop, there are so many valuable skills I learned that I could not have learned elsewhere. Some skills that have stuck with me to this day are things like how to most efficiently pack a backpack, how to properly stack wood for a fire, how to read and orient a map, and how to properly and carefully ration food. And that’s just to name a few of the things I learned. These are skills that not a lot of young men today have, and with the Boy Scouts currently considering bankruptcy, it could be even harder for young men to find a place to learn these skills in a practical way. But even if you aren’t a Scout, it’s always best to abide by the Scout motto, “Be prepared”.

2. Appreciation for Nature

It’s no secret that with the amount of hikes and campouts I’ve been on, I’ve had the opportunity to see quite a few different natural locations, biomes, and ecosystems. Whether it was the vast desert in Death Valley, the mountainous heights of the Sierra Nevadas, or the lush forests of Las Padres, I eventually came to greatly appreciate what Mother Nature had to offer. Moreover, another thing this led to was my intense appreciation for the stars and astronomy. Since so many of the places I went to were devoid of the intense amount of light pollution of the modern world, I’ve been able to see the night sky in all of its wonder and beauty. With so much of modern life being so hectic and energized, being able to sit back and enjoy the beauty, tranquility, and majesty of the natural elements can be a great de-compressor for any young man.

3. Observational Skills

Travelling in the outdoors, it’s a given that you’ll see a lot of different things; trees, plants, animals, animal tracks, landscapes, and the like. And as a result, if you go to the same area often, it can allow to become familiar with the biome and ecosystem. It can help you more easily identify what animals are in the area by finding their tracks, or what types of trees are present by just looking at their leaves. While it can be debated what kind of practicality this has in real life, in my opinion, general knowledge in a variety of subjects is always a good thing for a young man to have.

So there it is! Those are just a few things that a young man can learn in the wilderness. To be honest, there’s probably a lot more that the wilderness has to teach, and if those of you who are reading like this article, maybe I’ll make a part two (2)! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, donte to our Patreon, and follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook and Instagram. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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The Value of Being a Gentleman

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! I know you’re probably tired of hearing this, but I want to apologize for not having anything up on here or social media in the last while. School has been putting me through the wringer, and it’s generally been hard to find any inspiration to write lately. But hopefully I should be back to my old posting schedule soon. I’ll still have to start by putting up just one article a week for now, but I’m hoping to be back to my twice-a-week posting schedule before too long. In any case, let’s get into the rest of the article.

So for today’s article, I want to go into the roots of why I even started this blog in the first place. In today’s society, especially in the US, the art and value of being a gentleman is being seriously downplayed and even demonized in certain circles. And on paper, I can see why people think that. Some of the worst atrocities in our human history like the Holocaust, mass enslavement of the Africans and the Jews, and persecution of women in the Middle East can be easily attributed to men, whether individually or as a group. These can be reasonable examples of the “toxic masculinity” that many a social justice advocate or modern feminist try to fight against. However, that doesn’t mean that men should feel guilty for the history of their gender and become emasculated for the sake of appeasing women. Allow me to explain.

As stated by CRTV host Allie Stuckey in a video on Prager University, “When men embrace their masculinity in a way that is healthy and productive, they are leaders, warriors, and heroes.” (https://youtu.be/U-kxdyJs6y8?t=93). Masculinity in and of itself is not a bad thing. While yes, unbridled and unchecked masculinity can lead to such atrocities stated above, healthy and virtuous masculinity can lead to massive change for the betterment of society and the world. Such masculinity can lead to things like the ending of slavery in the United States, the harnessing of electricity, or the writing of timeless stories and music. And that’s what I’m trying to teach my readers with this blog.

I encourage my readers to be traditionally masculine, but not in a way that’s harmful to others like what sites like Return of Kings may advocate for (I might write more about them in the future). What they advocate for can be argued as “toxic masculinity”, but that is nothing close to what I try to teach my readers. As Stuckey states in the video, virtuous masculinity has helped end wars, create nations, and foster strong families. It’s this kind of masculinity that I try to imbue into my readers. I try to give them ideas like general respect to your fellow man, treating women with dignity and respect, and not treating anyone as lesser than human regardless of race, gender, religion, or anything else. I encourage individuality and egalitarianism, as I believe these virtues that are the most necessary to creating strong men, strong families, and by extension, a strong society. In today’s society where the importance of fathers and strong men is being increasingly downplayed, I feel a responsibility to show men what value they can actually bring to this world, thus, here we are. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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Why the Stigma Around Online Dating?

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Once again, I want to sincerely apologize for the lack of articles up here lately, I’ve been swamped other projects for school and the like, and haven’t been able to do much of anything on here. But I’m at a point now where I think I can get back to a schedule of posting just once a week instead of twice. Maybe if I’m able to find another admin, we’ll be able to get back to our twice-a-week posting schedule. With all of that out of the way, let’s get to the rest of the article!

Now, it should come as no surprise that online dating and things like dating apps have started to become more and more prevalent as in today’s society, and with such growing prevalence comes its fair share of critics and naysayers. Even I myself tend to advocate for actually talking to a woman in person and getting a genuine human connection with a woman I’d like to date, since just swiping right on someone I think is attractive and asking if they want to hook up doesn’t seem to accomplish that all. Not to mention there are countless articles and op-eds outright discouraging people from pursuing online dating. But here’s the ugly truth: with the massive expansion of the internet and social media, meeting people online has just become part of everyday life. As a part of the internet’s expansion, that means things like dating sites have become much more sophisticated and there are more options for dating sites now than ever.

When people think of dating dating sites, most people think of sites like eHarmony, Match.com, or ChristianMingle, but the fact of the matter is that there are countless dating sites for many different people with different interests. There are Christian dating sites for those religious folks, “geeky” dating sites for a myriad of different fandoms like Disney, Star Trek, Harry Potter and Dr. Who, and even dating sites for musicians. While I myself was hesitant about online dating, I eventually bit the bullet and decided to make a profile on CatholicMatch, which is exactly what it sounds like, a dating site for single Catholics. And eventually, I met a wonderful woman who I am now in a very happy and fruitful relationship with. The reason sites like these work is because they focus on commonalities between people, which makes it even easier for them connect. If you ask me, it’s not unlike meeting someone at church or a fan event. The circumstances of what people have in common simply led to them finding each other out of a crowd. Dating sites allow you to do essentially the same thing, just in a more digital setting. So if any of you gents feel the call to go online to find the woman of your dreams, then by all means, go ahead! Maybe it’ll work, maybe it won’t, but you never know until you try. Good luck gents, and happy searching! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

 

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The Gentleman’s Guide to the Dinner Date

Evening, gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! First of all, I want to sincerely apologize for not having anything up on here or any of our social media for the last few weeks. I just started a new semester at San Francisco State, and I’ve been trying to adjust to my new schedule. But now that I’m settled in, I should be back to my regular posting schedule soon, though the schedule may have to change up a little bit. In any case, today’s article is inspired by The Art of Manliness. There’s an entire section in the Art of Manliness book my godmother gave me that’s all about the best way for you to conduct yourself on a dinner date, so today, I’ll be listing some ways to make that special dinner date all the more special!

Disclaimer: Most of what I’m about to say is almost entirely accredited to The Art of Manliness, and I do not intend to claim credit for any of it. If you’d like to read their original piece about this, you can find it right here.

1. She goes first

The most important thing to remember is something to keep in mind before you even get to the restaurant, and that’s that the woman goes first. She’s the first to get in the car and the first to enter the restaurant, since you’ll be holding the door for her in both situations. She’s the first to take her coat off and sit down at the table since you’ll be helping there as well. She’s also the first to look at the wine list and the first to order her food when the time comes. However, there is an exception to this, and that’s when you’re sharing some dishes that the both of you agreed on. In that case, it’s your job to order for the both of you. She also picks up the first piece of the appetizer and is the first to take a bite of the main course. Men by nature are selfish and impatient. As Mr. McKay puts in his article, “We’re used to fighting for that slice of pizza or the last beer amongst our equally selfish man friends.” But tonight, your date is your top priority, not your food.

2. Slow down

For the most part, men tend to eat faster than women, but here’s the catch: there’s no reason to rush it! Slow down, take smaller bites, don’t shovel the food into your mouth like an animal. How can you expect to hold a conversation with a mouthful of food? Which leads very nicely to our next point.

3. Pay attention to her!

This should just go without saying. You’re going on this date to connect with your date, so how can you expect to have a conversation with her if you’re shoving food in your mouth or keeping your face glued to your phone? She might be quite interesting, which is most likely the reason you’re out on the date in the first place. So if you just take that little extra effort to pay attention to her, you might learn something even more interesting about her!

4. Keep drinks to a minimum

This really only applies to those of you who are twenty-one or over, but nonetheless, it’s still something important to keep in mind. It’s perfectly fine to enjoy a glass of wine or a cocktail during your meal, but you should generally refrain from having any more than two drinks. One of you will have to drive home.

5. In regards to payment…

To put it bluntly, you’re covering everything. The check, the tip, and everything else.

So there it is! Just remember these very simple things, and I’m sure your next dinner date will go swimmingly! While you should still obviously keep in mind general dining etiquette, these things are special things to keep in mind specifically for those special nights out with your special lady. Also, one last apology for not putting up anything for such a long time, we should be back to our regular posting schedule soon. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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Disneyland Through the Years: The Perfect Date Spot!

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! If you know me personally, then you probably know that I love anything Disney, and by extension, Disneyland Park in Anaheim, California. I’ve been to Disneyland so much that I practically have the entire layout of the park implanted in my brain. So today, I thought it would be fun to show some pictures of Disneyland over the years, and also explain why it makes for the perfect date location!

Disclaimer: Disneyland can be difficult to drive to if you don’t live in California, southern California in particular. Plus, tickets to Disneyland can be ridiculously expensive, so just keep all of that in mind before making a decision about making the trip out there.

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Aerial view of the park in 1969

Since its opening on July 17, 1955, Disneyland has practically become an icon of American culture, especially its youth. It was the perfect culmination of Walt Disney’s visions and dreams, with him hoping that it would “be a source of joy and inspiration to all the world.” And sixty-three years later, I would say his hopes have been realized! The true joy of Disneyland lies in being young at heart. It’s a place where people can reminisce about their childhoods with their favorite Disney characters, or simply just unwind and feel like a child again. While I’m obviously not saying that we should all be man-children, I think it’s still important to let nostalgia take over for a little bit and to let out your inner child run free. It’s a perfect way to unwind and make you a little happier. And that’s what makes it such a great date location.

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Workers constructing the Matterhorn Bobsleds

It should come as no surprise a couple wants to be happy at the end of the day, so why not spend some time at the place that’s been called the “Happiest Place on Earth”? There are so many things you and your lady can do while at the Magic Kingdom! You can get a bite to eat and a show at the Golden Horseshoe Saloon, you can see performances of Fantasmic! or World of Color, you can take trip across the Rivers of America on the Mark Twain riverboat, and of course, you can go on the myriad of rides. You can adventure all around the jungle on the Jungle Cruise or Indiana Jones, you can warp through the stars on Star Tours and Space Mountain, or you can take a tour through a Haunted Mansion. And if you’d like a ride that has a bit more of a romantic flair, I would personally suggest the Storybook Land canal.  It’s got such a pleasant and romantic atmosphere, especially at night.

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The first iteration of Space Mountain in 1977

Ultimately what I’m getting at is that Disneyland is the perfect place to unwind and spend time with your special lady. There are so many things you can do, interactive or otherwise, and it allows you both to just let your inner child run free for a little bit. Disneyland was conceived as a place where anyone, young or old, can reminisce about their childhoods, raise hopes about their future, and in general be happy. Of course, nothing is better for a couple than being happy together, and if you’re looking for something to do that you’ll both enjoy, a trip to Disneyland may be the perfect choice! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll leave you with some more photos of Disneyland over the years. I’ll see you next time!

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Mermaids were once a staple of the submarine lagoon
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A Disneyland parade in the 1970s
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C-3PO, Mickey Mouse, and R2-D2 at the premiere of Star Tours in 1987
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Aladdin’s Genie leading a parade in 1993
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The climax of the Fantasmic! show in Disneyland
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California Adventure’s World of Color show