Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! In today’s article, we’re going to be talking about a question that’s been floating around romantic circles seemingly since the beginning: is there such thing as a soulmate? One person that you’re meant to be with forever? This idea has certainly become quite pervasive thanks to old fairy tales, the most timeless love stories, and popular media today largely reinforcing the ideas of those stories. While it can certainly be a difficult question to answer, especially considering just the sheer number of people in this world, I’m hoping I can provide a clear answer or explanation. So without any further delay, let’s get started!
For starters, it’s important to note that, no surprise, love is extremely complex. What two people may find attractive about each other can vary greatly depending on the two people involved, and why two people may want to spend time together, let alone the rest of their lives together, can be different for every single couple. Not only that, but there may be some who may not even see marriage and settling down with that one person as something they even want to do. Every person on this planet is different, so that makes general interaction between humans, let alone falling in love with someone, very complicated. With all this in mind, you may think that the idea of a soulmate existing for everyone is basically impossible, simply because love and human interaction in and of itself is so intricate. However, I actually believe the contrary.
While it’s true that love is very complicated, it’s important to remember that everyone is different and everyone desires different things in a life partner. Because so many people desire so many different things, I honestly believe that there is one person out of the 7.674 billion that fits the exact desires of any given person, just given the pure numbers. If you have an idea of what you might want with a romantic partner, odds are that you’ll be able to find someone somewhere who fits that idea to a T. This idea is certainly supported by mainstream entertainment. There have been a multitude of movies, TV shows, fairy tales, and basically any other form of entertainment where the most famous stories are harrowing tales of people finding their “one true love” and being carried off into the sunset with their “happily ever after”, which have basically drilled into the heads of millions the idea of there being just one person that we’re supposed to spend the rest of our days with. While I believe that idea is certainly valid, there is a massive problem with it.
Thanks to the idea of soulmates as well as popular media’s ardent reinforcement of that idea, it’s led to a problem with a lot of people where they start to obsess over finding their soulmate. They believe that they can only spend the rest of their life with their soulmate, and that anyone who isn’t said soulmate just isn’t worth their time. This can be a really big problem though, since they might miss out on many other romantic opportunities. I know this may be contradicting all that I’ve been saying up to this point, but what I’m meaning to say is that just because someone can’t find their soulmate, that doesn’t mean there aren’t other people out there who might be a great match for them even if they aren’t the exact person that they’re looking for. The problem is that because so many people obsess over finding their soulmate, they might end up overlooking other romantic interests that could still be a good match for them and who they could still live a happy life with.
I know this article may seem all over the place and you may even be wondering what I’m trying to say here. Essentially, the point I’m trying to make is yes, there are such things as soulmates. I believe that there is one person out there who any given bachelor/bachelorette is meant to be with, but I think it’s a problem that so many people obsess over the idea. While there may be just one person out there for each of us (and I feel lucky enough to have found mine), there are still plenty of people out there that can certainly be compatible with each of us, and it’s important to not overlook that. Not finding your soulmate is not the end of the end of the world. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s post. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, and follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook and Instagram. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!
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