Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Today, I’m going to talk about something I’m sure a lot of young men would not be the most comfortable talking about: our emotions. This can be a bit of a touchy subject for anyone, especially young men. Not only that, but it’s practically become a joke at this point that the only emotion traditional young men are allowed to experience and/or display is anger while keeping all the rest of his emotions completely suppressed. But I’m here today to tell you this: that assertion of how a man should act is completely ridiculous and untrue. Emotions run deep within any rational human being, and young men are no exception. It is perfectly acceptable for a young gentleman to feel and display emotions, but there are a select number of ways that he should deal with them. So today, I’m going to talk about the proper way a young gentleman should deal with his emotions. Let’s get started!
For starters, it’s important to remember that experiencing any kind of emotion is perfectly reasonable and acceptable. Happiness, sadness, fear, anger, and all the rest are all natural emotions that have helped humans survive and evolve for millenia. There is no shame in feeling any sort of emotion, but what’s important for a gentleman to know is that he shouldn’t let that emotion get the better of him. What I mean by that is that even if a gentleman happens to feel an emotion at a certain moment, he shouldn’t let that emotion overtake him. Obviously, emotion can be a huge spark for making all sorts of decisions, especially split-second decisions or having to act on instinct. However, if history has shown us anything, it’s that making immediate decisions based solely on emotion has more often than not ended in disaster. While there is no shame in experiencing emotion in any way, it shouldn’t be the sole motivator for a gentleman’s actions. But there is something else about emotion that young men should keep in mind: how to display emotion.
Like I’ve been saying, emotions run deep within the human race. They’ve helped humans survive and evolve for thousands of years, and still do to this day. That being said, it can become quite a problem when a gentleman just lets his emotions run wild. In general, young men should try to be relatively calm and composed, even when faced with situations that stir up their emotions (I’ll mostly be talking about fear, anger, and sadness here). It’s like the example you would hear all the time in grade school: true bravery is not the absence of fear, but rather the courage to work through it. When faced with a situation where he’s afraid, a gentleman will continue to push through it, even if the situation makes him uncomfortable. Similarly, a gentleman won’t lash out and shout at people if he’s angry. There might be a certain situation or something someone said to him that makes him angry, but he wouldn’t show that in public. A gentleman should vent his anger in private to someone he trusts, or he should do something like hit a punching bag or play a video game (which is usually how I let out my anger). Also, a gentleman will let the sadness of something like a hard breakup or loss of a family member affect him to the point of not performing as well in school or work. A true gentleman will take time to mourn (more so after a loss of a family member), and maybe take time off of work or school in order to mourn. Your teacher, boss, peers, and colleagues will understand if you have to that. He doesn’t let his emotions affect his performance at school and/or work. He also doesn’t let them affect how he lives his day-to-day life.
Before I wrap up, I want to say once again that none of this is to imply that a gentleman can’t feel emotions at all. I’m just trying to say that there is an appropriate time and place to vent and display those emotions. Letting out your emotions through physical activity, playing video games, venting to a family member or someone else you trust, or even through art (something I go into a bit more right here) can be a great way for young gents to balance themselves out. Emotions are important and they run very deep in the human race. There is no shame in feeling or displaying emotion, there is just an appropriate time for both men and women to do so. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!